The guy whom I first found 'true love' with, raped me after 5 months, how can I get over it?

Question

It happened about a year and a half ago... sure it's been awhile, but it changed me... I was still a virgin... people get raped all the time, but to have it happen with someone you love? Who the day before still 'loved' you? I don't know how it happened, but it did. Ever since, I've been so different, I don't have as much respect for myself and I blame it all on me... how can i finally get over it? I haven't even had a boyfriend in a year... I just can't put myself through it. What should I do?

Answer 1

You should share your story with other young girls, so that maybe it would not happen to them.

Answer 2

ya, u had s*x, but don't blame it on u, blame it on the guy, u got raped it's not ur fault! Please dont blame it on urself

Answer 3

Rape is rape, regardless of 'who' did it or how it came about. No means NO. There are many many crisis services out there that help women recover from these situations. Have a look online for ones in your area. Don't you ever feel ashamed or like a simply a victim, you are still you, you are more than a victim- don't give that sicko the satisfaction.

Answer 4

alot of people go to counceling after something traumatic like that

Answer 5

a tramatizing event like that takes years to overcome. many women develop PTSD (post tramatic stress disorder) and should seek medical help and counciling. I know its really hard honestly i do. Due to the reason that I was raped myself. It was horrible. It hurt so much, the stinging was a pain that i could never quite explain. I have had boyfriends since the event took place but i am afraid of intimacy it scares me........ITS NOT your fault do not blame yourself its the guys fault hes the one one who did it.

Answer 6

Hi, I'm sorry to hear this happened to you. You really should respect your self no matter what!! I'm not sure how to tell you to get over this because I don't think anoyone ever really does! I have a friend and my mom was raped when they were little and they still remember it to this day BUT, they just keep going on with there life. If you don't then the guy that did this to you will WIN!!  Live your life to the fullest everyday and don't beat yourself up over it time and time again!! No matter what people say you are a very specail person and don't give up!! I everyting goes ok!!

Answer 7

hun, i am really sorry that happened to you. but it is not your fault! just please, no matter what remember that. never blame yourself. i would go to counseling, either alone or to a support group. talking about what happened will give you closure and knowing other poeple who have been through the same thing will make it easier on you!

Answer 8

You should probably get some counseling.

Just remember, it IS NOT your fault.