The married man I'm seeing wants to leave his wife and start over with me. The problem here we both ?

Question

agreed we were just having fun. I have my own boyfriend who doesn't know about this but he also has his own issues which led me to the arms of the other man. My married friend told me he loves me before I could even think of love. What to do, what to do?

Answer 1

I don't get woman like you, I just had that happen to me 9 months ago. I think you are a dog and I think that you to deserve each other and just remember what comes around goes around hunny.

How could you do that to another woman and your boyfriend? Is your boyfriend that bad that you have to cheat on him, and you have to mess up the marriage of this man? Who do you think you are?

Answer 2

Do yourself a favor. Get out of this relationship NOW, and do not look back. If this married man cheats on his present wife, he will cheat on you.

You might also look into therapy, to find out why you have a desire to cheat. If your BF did something that "drove" you to this married man (which is nonsense, there were certainly other options for action), then I suggest you dump the BF and find a single man.

And as another answerer pointed out, there is a word for women who do what you're doing: home wrecker.  

Answer 3

oh jeezzzz plezzzzz! tell him to get a divorce (not leave his wife) get a divorce and you tell your boyfriend that you dont want to be with him anymore and then make the relationship official between you and him. you will see just how much he wants you. if he will not divorce his wife than you know what's up.

Answer 4

dump them both and start over.  

Answer 5

Oh, what a tangled web you weave.  I feel sorry for his wife and your boyfriend.  Someone needs to tell them how they are being lied to and cheated on.  What about STD's or whatever you may be passing to these two innocent people?  What to do?  Get some morals.

Answer 6

Good grief, what a mess your in, if I were you, I would get rid of both of these guys and do something else with my life. I can't see you being a winner in this mess.

Answer 7

people like u are sick too take some ones husband do this fella have children how can u take a childs father away from them and a husband away from his wife if u cheat on ur boyfriend then clearly u dont give a S**t about him let alone love him one day this will all blow up in ur face

also go with this married man but if hes cheating on his own wife with u then what will stop him from cheating on u stay away from this married man hes not urs to take u are breaking two peoples heart ur boyfriend and this other fellas wife if he loved her he wouldnt be doing this nor u to ur man at least hane the decency to leave ur boyfriend so tha way he dosent get hurt anymore

Answer 8

Get a clue.  Stop wrecking marriages.  Cheating isn't fun it is wrong and disgusting. If you don't like your boyfriend, leave.  No matter how messed up he is, he doesn't deserve to be cheated on. Same goes for the wife in this situation.  Grow up.

Answer 9

your are both wrong and nothing good will come to you for this. Remember what goes around comes around! try putting yourself in his wife shoes. Also, once you lie down with a dog you will come up wit flees

Answer 10

what is the problem? if that is who you want to be with then do it that is all i can say and i don't believe in seeing a married man no matter what the reason but you do what you think is best

Answer 11

Tell him straight up you are not leaving your boyf to be with him.

And he needs to stay with his wife.

Cut off all contact wtih him and don't mess with married people again.

Answer 12

Be honest with the man you're seeing, the married one. He may decide to leave his wife even if you're not interested in having more of a relationship with him. In fact, I would most certainly recommend you NOT seek a long-term or serious relationship with this man, as he seems to have an issue with loyalty.  

Answer 13

BREAK IT OFF - NOW, before you hurt EVERYONE beyond repair.  Learn your lesson and DO NOT ever mess with a taken man EVER again.  It is rude, selfish, and unnecessary.  

Answer 14

When did you find out that this person was married?  If it was before you started seeing him, then I think you have a problem.  People are unlikely to be sympathetic to your plight, are they?

You have a boyfriend so why did you want to see someone else?  Do your boyfriend a favour and finish the relationship with him - he deserves a girlfriend who will want to be with him and only him.

If your married boyfriend chooses to end his marriage because of you - then I guess that's what will happen.  At least, that might be an opportunity for his wife to find out what a rat he is.

If the two of you get together - then good luck to you both.  You will need it.  If he has cheated on his wife and you on your boyfriend - what's to stop you both cheating on each other in the future?

You sound like a very immature individual that has a lot of growing up to do, but then so does your married boyfriend.

Answer 15

He will never leave his wife for you and even if he did, which I doubt, he is bad news because what he did to her he will do to you, you already know he is a liar and a cheat so dump him and in future, avoid married men. And don't blame your bad choices on anyone else, that is cheap and tacky behavior.

Answer 16

Go for it, you both deserve each other and deserve to let the other people who are with you go and be with partners who will actually be faithful to them. What you two are doing is wrong so I suggest you to go and be wrong together rather than dragging other people into this mess. Every marriage/relationship has issues and that's no excuse for cheating, it doesn't do anything to fix the problems in the relationship it only makes them worse!

At the very least I think you should be honest with this guy and tell him you don't feel the same way. Honesty is the best policy and its something you both could learn something about.

Answer 17

Why so SERIOUS? HAHAHAHAHAHA. I'm glad this is happening to you, CHEATER!!! One day your husband will cheat on you, one day your husband will cheat on you, on you, on you!!!!!

Answer 18

Tell him again, he's just a side dish to you, nothing serious, and you don't think you can be in love with him, and you don't want to break up his marriage because you can't see you married to him because of your boyfriend.

Answer 19

Get out of this relationship now.  Better yet, don't date anyone until you can be faithful.

Answer 20

Honey,has he left his wife yet? No, because he is not going to. That's a lie he told you. I've said it time and time again. All you homewreckers out there need to realize that you are no more than a piece of booty for these men. They will use you and toss you aside. They are never going to leave their wife. And as far as you making excuses for why you cheated, well, that's really pathetic of you. Don't blame your boyfriend because you are a low life tramp. You can take all the blame for this one.  

Answer 21

K.A.R.M.A TROLL

Answer 22

Well you can break up with your boyfriend and he can divorce his wife.

Answer 23

What should I do??? Awwwwwwww.Your so sad. Introduce your boyfriend to his wife.  

Answer 24

Having a relationship with a married man is WRONG. Regardless of the circumstances.

If you are having doubts about this married man, don't break up his marriage.

Obviously, this man has a lot of issues and chances are that if you were to get together with this man, in a few years, he would cheat on you.

If your boyfriend has issues, you need to either deal with him and make it work or move on and find someone that is single and available.  There are so many men out there, you don't need to fall for the one that is married.

Answer 25

Leave your man and be with the married guy. Just know that if you do that you have a 5% chance of having a relationships that lasts...FIVE PERCENT!.

Answer 26

Home Wrecker!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 27

Well, it seems to me that you are not in love with either of them.  Leave the married friend, before he destroys his life, since you are not willing to be with him and leave your boyfriend, because if you fell in other men's arms, its because he hasn't won your respect.

Answer 28

     Back out of both relationships, love, and start afresh.  The way you're going can only end in tears - for you, him, and his family.

Good luck

Mike B

Answer 29

Since you cant be honest with anyone else, be honest with yourself.  Find out what your own issues are and end all the relationships you are in.  Learn to love you and then maybe you'll be able to love someone else. BTW the married man doesn't love you!!!!  

Answer 30

i have been there chances are he will never leave his wife he likes the challange  i   waited 2 years for him and he told me the same things  its never going to change

Answer 31

if you cannot be faithful to your boyfriend you should not be with him, at least have a little respect for him by giving him that much. The same goes for this married man.