The most stressful thing I've ever had to deal with.?

Question

Okay, so..I'm 15 first of all..and my mom won't let me do anything! I can't be on the phone after 12:00am for no reason, 'cause I'm not doing anything after that..I don't have a bed time..I have to get off the computer when everyone goes to bed, I get in trouble for being on the computer too early..I want to go places, you know with friends and just hang out, and have fun, but everytime I go somewhere, it's with my mom or dad who are seperated. My mom was pregnant at 15, and thinks I'm going to be like her, but I'm totally opposite of her and thought that proved how mature I am! I get all straight A's, have scholarships, don't go anywhere! my mom won't even let me have a cell phone..and I think I'll need it with starting High School, ecspecially since I'm going to be involved in a lot. I'm so stressed out about this, I just hate my mom more than anything in the world, and would do anything for a little freedom. Anyone have any advice??

Answer 1

She is just worried about you.  She has a right to as well.  I mean think about it kid, why do you want to be on the phone after 12:00am - you should be in bed!  Why do you need to be all over town with your friends - you should be doing something productive not gossiping.  Just ask you mom for a lil down time to yourself at least once a week.  Oh and you shouldn't even be on the computer unsupervised so it all seems like you're complaining about a mothers work.

Answer 2

The most stressful thing I've ever had to deal with.?

um......... life

Answer 3

If this is the most stressful thing you've ever had to deal with, consider yourself lucky!  There are many kids in abusive homes who would love to trade places with you.

Answer 4

You really won't be able to understand all that your mom does until you're a lot older. Though she seems rough, she means well. Sometimes she's a jerk, but she's your number one fan and eventually she'll be thankfully your best friend.

Answer 5

Your a good kid. And she wants you 2 live 2 your fullest, she probably knows that ur good, but in generation of teens.. that's what is driving her crazy.

Just tell where you are going wherever you go. Then she'll start 2 trust you.

Answer 6

I am in the same exact situation as you except my mom was not pregnant at 15 or my parents arent seperated. I cant do anythign and just had absolutley everythign taking away from me even my best friend im never aloud 2 see her again. I have tried everythign to change her mind i am also a staright A student im never in trouble i do everythign that im suppose 2 and are still beign punished. I dont know wat 2 do either. I really didnt care about anythign esle she took away excpet my best frind who is liek my sister and 2day she needed me the most and i wasnt their for her and last night i snuck on the phone and she was crying and stuff. My advice is just keep trying I just want u 2 know im in the same position and ur not alone. Hope i kinda helped but im also confused 2. Good luck

Answer 7

Well let's think about this from your mother's perspective:  off the phone at 12 am...why?  Your mom might want to get some sleep without hearing constant chatter (not to mention a bill...).  Get off the computer when everyone goes to bed...why?  Because your mom doesn't want you to go somewhere you shouldn't.  Your mom is looking out for you.  You may not get that now, but she really does.  Further on down the road, long past 15, you will see that she meant a lot of good and very little harm.

So instead of doing the immature thing and coming on here to rant and rave about your "stressful" mom...go have a heart to heart.  Without crying.  Without yelling.  Without being nasty.  Maybe if she sees some maturity, she will loosen up.

Answer 8

The fact that you say you hate your mom more than anything in the world shows me that your not as mature as you think you are. I'm sure you have clothing on your back and food in your stomach, I'm sure your not buying the things you need, I would bet you don't pay for that internet and phone bill each month.

If you don't know this, girls born to mothers who are young, tend to be young mother's themselves. Not saying this is the reason why your mother is not giving you as much freedom. Maybe you should ask her why your not allowed to go places and do these things instead of getting defensive about it.

Answer 9

Talk to her, you have to accept compromise

if you talk to her and tell her this, she will understand and say to her, i wont get pregnant at 15 you should trust me, i am sensible, if you don't trust me how do you expect me to have a life? how do you expect me to be happy if your restricting everything i do.

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Answer 10

That definitely isnt a good enough reason to hate your mom. remember hate is a strong word. have u tried convincing her that u want a little bit more freedom since u are a teenager?. tell her that u arent like her. show her that ^. and do you get to hang with friends or spend the night. let her know that ur only young once. that u want to go out. get a little more freedom. and i think getting a cell phone in high school is definitely a good choice. tell me how it goes kk? :)

Answer 11

Your mom needs to lay off. She made the mistake of being pregnant of 15. It doesn't mean you will be.

1) You need a cellphone, what if something would happen. & you needed picked up from school early, or even needed picked up from somewhere dealing with school.

2) She needs to let you have a social life, if she doesn't let you you might sneak behind her back to receive one. (Some of my friends do that.)

3) She needs to trust you more, how can you have a good relationship with your mom if she doesn't even trust you enough, to give you a little freedom.

I'm sorry, but you need to have a talk with her.

It's unfair that she won't let you even try.

Tell her that you're starting high school, and you want to have a little freedom, and to give it to you appropriately, not all at one time. Ask her for starters, about a later computer time, or phone time. Then work your way up to a cell phone.

But she will never know how you feel, if you don't tell her.

Good luck!

Answer 12

well your mom is just afraid that something may happened to you but she does it because she loves you just talk to her and tell  her that you will like a little more freedom good luck

Answer 13

if i were you buddy i'd have a heart to heart conversation about it, i mean your 15 you need a bit of independance and privacy at your age. my mum was like that just not to that extent when i wsa 14-15. but now im 17 shes chilled out it gets better over time but i see where your coming from best way is to just talk to her about it proves oyur mature arguing and being stroppy didnt get me anywhere. good luck mate.

Answer 14

Shes your mother and she loves you.  She should probably let you have a cell phone for safety reasons but I do understand the no computer after everyone is in bed b/c I would want to monitor my 15 years olds computer use.... im not saying you are but a lot of young girls are naieve and will sucker into anything when it comes to myspace, facebook, ect.  I would also limit my 15 year old as to what she can do...I wouldnt drop her off at the mall to run around but I would atleast let her go to the movies with friends as long as I knew what she was seeing and when it started and ended and who shes with.  You seem to be on the right track with your grades and im sure she wants it to stay that way.  My cousin was on the right track till 15 and we all thought she was a smart girl and knew better but she got with the wrong crowd and the second her mom let her guard down she started going downhill with her life.  I also understand no phone after 12am b/c everyone is in bed usually by then and im sure they dont want the phone ringing!!!  It could be worse...some 15 year olds still have a bed time and dont get phone privleges after 10 and rarely get to use a computer!

Answer 15

first off tell ur mom that u want freedom and try telling her what u just told us

talk to different people about this, not complete strangers,

talk to ur dad, a counsoler, therapist..ANYONE!

u should tell ur friends, ask ur friends what priveleges they have at ur age and tell ur mom what they have and that u are just as good as them

just tell her what u told us just now

Good Luck Hunn♥

Answer 16

Why dont you sit down with your parents and come up with a parents child contract.

Everybody can lay their issues on the table,and come up with an agreement.