The mother- daughter relationship.?

Question

my fiance is all about family. He has been asking when is he going to meet my mother and siblings. I don't get along with my mom due to her ways and certain events in life he doesn't know about. Should I take him to meet her? I think she will try to embarrass me. she's done it in front of people before. He would also like our families to get together. What should I do?

Answer 1

Be honest with him and let him know why you have delayed this meeting. Although we tend to think that each of our own childhoods were normal, the truth is that not all families are alike.  You've had a lot to overcome (he hasn't), so you don't view your mother in the same light as he views his.

Give your fiance an idea of what to expect and make sure he understands that there's a chance you might be made to feel uncomfortable and wish to leave early.

Hopefully, when he does meet her she will not embarrass you.

Answer 2

Since you guys are getting married, the meeting is bound to happen.  I would just try to "warn" him about what she might say or do.  and try to make the first  meeting ralatively short.  Maybe for coffee or something to see how it goes.  That way if it turns out to be miserable, you don't have to sit thru an entire dinner.  Or maybe you could meet somewhere for dessert or ice cream.  I am sure if it doesn't go well your financee will tell his family about it, so they will understand if you don't really want the families to spend too much time together.  Good Luck to you. Hopefully things will work out for all of you, because marriage  goes much smoother if all family members get along and are supportive.

Answer 3

um if your engaged its about high time you come clean with your bf

you should really know eachother in detail before geting wed, and engagement is a promise of geting wed

hence you should tell him this and anything else you been withholding from him, neither of you want to wake up 5 years from now realising you married a stranger

Answer 4

IF he is your fiance then you need to be honest with him  Tell him why you don't want to be around your family.  After all if he is your fiance he is someday going to be your husband

Answer 5

Your fiance is going to have to meet your family sooner or later so you might as well do it. Before you do, you should have a serious talk with him about your family. Explain that yours is not as close as his and you don't want him to be upset about what he might hear or see. Explain you love them but you have some issues with them too. Invite him and if things start turning out to be bad, then ask him if you both could come back later. You also  might want to talk to your family first too.

Answer 6

I agree with the above.  Be honest.  Tell your fiance what she's like so he will know what to expect, and then just roll with the punches to get it over with.  If she embarrasses you, don't give her the satisfaction of a response.  Ignore her and pretend you didn't even notice.