The mother of my child?

Question

3 years ago I was really confused about my sexuality and during this time I meet a female and dated her for a year. We had a child and she started teaching him how to hate me because i'm g*y. He calls f*g, q***r, homo and alot of other nasty names. I've always been there for my child but for the last 6 months she haven't let me see him. It hurts to know that he's going to grow up hating me just because i'm g*y. I'm so tired of this ignorant childish woman. I'm 21 but stepped up to the plate when my son was born but now it's like she want's me out of his life for good. I keep calling her begging her to please let me see my som but she always calls me nasty names and hang up on me. Then when I go to her house she slams the door in my face or even spit in my face sometimes. What would be the best way to deal with her to see my son?

Answer 1

Are you a settled down g*y man. Do you have one partner or do you have multiple. Because most g*y men have multiple partners not just one. If thats the case the mother knows best in keeping you away from the child. The child does not need to see that or be around that type of lifestyle its unnatural. Your best bet would to take her to court and sue for rights to see your own child. Your a father know so you should worry about your sexuality after your child has become an adult.

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Answer 2

You would have to go the legal way if she's not willing to make any plans for you to see him. Seems she would have to be forced. That way she cannot deny you seeing your child.

It's a terrible situation and I hope you come through as it sounds like you really love you child!

Answer 3

Basically shes pissed because your g*y and she feels like you have betrayed not only her but your son as well. Its unfortunate you did not make your decision on your sexuality prior to conception of this child. If she is already this angry she will fight you till the brutal end over your son. Don't get me wrong I'm sure you love your son and I do not agree with what she is doing. Get some legal help maybe you could get visitation rights and a order put on her to where she cant verbally abuse you or it least not in front of your son. All of this is going to make a huge impression on him and that is really sad because he does not deserve this. There is one true fact in all of this and that is children always pay for their parents wrong choices and mistakes. Best of luck to you and your son I hope for his sake this can be dealt with in a way that does not scar him for life..

Answer 4

I do not know what the laws are for your country, but I would look into getting visitation rights.  If you are paying child support then you should be able to spend time with your child.

Answer 5

next time you go to her house do this.

1. when she answers the door hurry up and grab her hair

2. pull her out

3. take her where your son can't see

4. slap her over & over to try to knock some sense into her head.

Answer 6

I would go to a lawyer and seek legal advice and parental rights for your son as you are entitled to see him.  If you name is on the birth certificate you are on your way a wee bit.  Also your sexual preference has nothing to do with it.  Its your responsibility as a father to ensure your ex does not bring your son up to be a hateful spiteful person which she will turn your son into if this is the way he is speaking at the age of 3.  OMG, my eldest son is 7 and he knows that "g*y" means that men like men (his words) but he does not see that as a bad thing only as 2 people being a couple.

GET ON THE PHONE NOW & CALL YOUR LAWYER - GET THE BALL ROLLING TODAY.

GOOD LUCK xx

Answer 7

This is a ridiculous situation. You have every right to see your child regardless of your sexuality. Do not beg her, DEMAND to see your child. If she continues to act like the ignorant fool she clearly is, contact a social worker or someone of similar occupation.

Good luck.

Answer 8

Best way - legal way. But, as you know, that wouldn't do a lot of good - she'd be forced to let you see him, but it would be awkward at best. Still, you have to find a way to get in there fast before your son gets any older and doesn't want to have anything to do with you (because of what his mother teaches him). Try to think about why she's acting this way...she might be in shock at having to become a single mother because of your change in sexuality. Maybe she's trying to keep your son away from you because she's worried about him being exposed to something she fears or is uncomfortable about (e.g. if you  have your son over and you're living with a male partner). Really not sure, sorry...but try getting legal advice.