The need to want to have an affair?

Question

I know that affairs are all bad things. But has anyone ever thought "What makes a person want to do that". And I am now asking myself this exact question. Why in a marriage is some one wanting to feel love with some one else. Or have a sexual relation with another person other than their spouse.Is it the fact that some people just get married too young? Is this a sign that some one isn't happy in their marriage? Or just plainly for the excitement? What do you guys think? Thanks for all answers.

Answer 1

sometimes relationships get a lil dull, or boring. people want to explore new excitement. it doesn't mean they don't love their spouse at all. they obviously need to spice things up in their relationship though.

Answer 2

Guys have affairs for all the reasons you have listed. Some are natural cheaters in that no matter what, they fool around and fall under the category of a "s*x addict".

From my experiences (myself and other friends), the main reason for cheating is not getting any s*x at home.  This does not make it right, but a sexless marriage is the accelerate which started husband to look outside of marriage for something he was not getting inside marriage.  I also know some ladies being unfaithful for this very same reason.

Answer 3

its allot of different reasons. i am one of those that has had affairs with married woman. they both said that the husband did it to them so that's way they are doing it back. the funny thing now is that my wife is doing it to me. so know i am paying back what i did to those men. it sucks, you don't think of the karma when your having s*x.  

Answer 4

There is never a NEED to have an affair, only a want.

It isn't because people get married young, young couples can be married for life without cheating.

When a partner marries and just isn't into the relationship, isn't ready for it or the relationship dies then ppl may cheat.  

Answer 5

I think that when someone has an affair is because they  don't love their spouse. I don't think age has anything to do with this issue because older people do it too. I was married at an early age and never ever has it crossed my  mind to sleep with someone else.

Answer 6

I don't know. I think maybe their marriage is missing something, and they find it in someone else. Or they just want s*x from someone else.

Answer 7

i like fish, so i got out with girls that cook fish

my wife wont touch it

Answer 8

I can think of a host of reasons:

Excitement of a new lover.  Danger in getting caught.  Wanting to get caught so you don't have to end the marriage yourself.  Revenge against spouse.  Something missing from the marriage.  Millions more.

Answer 9

what makes a person "do that" (cheat) is that the person is majorly messed up on the head and needs a good swift kick in the butt

Answer 10

good one girl - good one - this is a question in every male and female that is married mind - i know i thought of it and think of it and at times tempted to it - the option is there -infact its all over - but being married we make a commitment a vow a promise that i refuse to cross and not commit to - so i saty away and instead give my husband the loving - at times i take off my wedding ring and were a s**y number for my husband and be his b!t*h inturn him also , so in that way we stay focased i am having an affair with my husband and boy is it great - hope this helps -  

Answer 11

I think that everyone sometimes has fantasies, or thinks "what if..." because we are all humans.  We all know that just a few minor things could have completely sent our lives in different directions, and thus we have the natural urge to wonder.  Plus, like all things, we get used to our lives as married people and begin to wonder what change would be like.  That being said - it's only a bad thing when these thoughts consume you all of the time, and you begin to act on them.