The new mom?

Question

I went to a store with a neighbor. The line was long so I went on out to cool the vehicle down and handed him the money for my things. As I waited in the parking lot a woman came out with a small infant in her basket which was loaded and stacked high. She opens the tailgate of her SUV and starts loading the SUV from the cart. The baby, in the meantime, is sticking out in the traffic isle, in the scorching desert sun, (100f +), and begins to scream as the witless mom continued her thing. She finishes unloading, grabs the baby and shoves the poor thing inside the SUV, and starts to take the cart back. I couldn't STAND it anymore, I leaped out of my truck and grabbed the cart and said "I'll take that for ya" she, baby still in smoldering oven temperature SUV, begins to follow me and telling me where to put it. I turned around and snapped, "Get that F**KING A/C going on that baby!" Are mom's today so wrapped up into their own stupid c**p, that they've lost their motherly instincts?

Answer 1

In that heat, I probably would have done the same thing. Are you aware that the amount of heat trapped inside a parked car is often much higher than the air outside? How would putting a baby inside a hot car with a temperature as high as 150 degrees be any better for it? If anything, the only mistake I can see is not trying to find shade for the baby while she was unloading her cart. Children die while left in hot cars all the time. At least this woman didn't forget her child and leave it in the car while she went inside to do her shopping.

Answer 2

I don't know where you live or what kind of car she was driving.  But in my car, it usually takes a few minutes for the a/c to cool it off.  Putting the baby in the car may actually be worse.  Better to leave the tailgate open for a few minutes and let some air circulate.  It does wonders in my car to open the windows for a few minutes before getting in.  The fact is, babies cry and sometimes there is nothing you can do to stop them.  I admit, however, that when she DID put the baby in the car she should have turned on the a/c.  But try not to be so judgemental - it's hard taking care of a baby for the first time, and EVERYONE does something stupid with them once in a while.

Answer 3

Well I am a single mother. when I take my 2 year old daughter

shopping and we have some things. I turn on the AC first then I take my daughter and put her in her seat AFTER it has cooled down in there.

NOT ALL single mothers or mothers do this you can't say we are all bad. just because one lady did this i guess it means all mothers do it. there are good mothers and then there are not so good mothers same thing for ALL parents. no matter what a parent does there will always be someone to second guess them and that goes for married couples also.

My daughter comes first no matter what . and that is the way it should be.

Answer 4

shes a tard.. she was probaly having a bad day but thats no ecuse u shoulda warned her wit child protection services... that u had her license plates and she better start carign for that baby before u went and taken action..

mayeb a warning would scare her

Answer 5

I would have done exactly the same thing as you. What's the world coming to when a mother cares more about a bag of frozen peas than her baby!

Answer 6

I have no clue, but this would make me mad too.  I remember hearing a story about two small children left in the unlocked car, with the keys in it while the mother went to put the cart up.  The children were basically kidnapped when a man stole the car!  I have no children, so I feel it is often difficult for me to criticize, but this story has made me think more about my own surroundings and what I am really doing.  I hope when I do become a mother I am able to find ways to keep my child as safe as possible.  Sadly, sometimes no matter what parents do, they are deemed "wrong".

Answer 7

Was she being a bag parent? Yes, maybe you're right.

But you are making it a gender issue when the real question is ''where the f... is the father?'' and ''isn't the father an even worse parent than the mother since he's not even aroud?''.

My point being: Your question seems to imply that mothers have responsibilities towards children than fathers don't.

Answer 8

poor kid! i guess they have forgoten their "motherly instincts"!

Answer 9

awww poor baby!!

Answer 10

Yeah, considering she was neglecting her baby in a way was irresponsible of her.

But I don't think you had to curse her out.

You know what really get under my skin, is two years ago in my Native home of Michigan, there was a case where an irresponsible mother left their small children in a vehicle for over an hour while she was seeing a boyfriend at 2:00 AM.

Answer 11

I certainly hope that women are not starting to lose their maternal instincts. I tend to think they are when I hear about women who put their "jobless" boyfriends before their own children.

Answer 12

I really understand where you are coming from. I see stupid things like this all the time. Especially being a mom my self I really notice it. I think people are so selfish and caught up in their own thoughts and needs they don't take anyone else, including their kids into consideration. Bravo to you!!! If I would have saw you do that I so woulda Gave you a high five!!!

Answer 13

ABSOLUTELY DEAD ON 100% YOU GO DUDE!!!!!

>>>>>> AND ANYONE WHO RESPONDS DISAGREES WITH YOU  who are mothers should put there kids up for adoption now and potentialLY save a life or get their tubes tied so as to never bring a life into the world only to risk it dying.

OUTSTANDING QUESTION AND STORY!

Answer 14

I don't think you should make a generalization about all moms based the actions of one very stupid, selfish woman. I have a 4 year old and am pregnant with #2 and  would NEVER do something like that. If it's really hot outside I almost always turn on the AC before we get in the car and I let my son take a drink with him.

Some moms are too self involved and that's sad. I don't think that that means all moms in general have lost their maternal instincts. Some people just shouldn't have children. What did she say to you when you told her that?

Answer 15

that woman sounds like she's lost her ******* mind!! the baby goes in the car first!! you never know what can happen in a parking lot, ESPECIALLY if someone is driving like a maniac!!

Answer 16

Moms these days ARE different. they let their kids act out of control, and they really do not care what their kids are doing as long as they can keep gossiping or whatever. This change is very recent. I have a 12 year old step daughter. When she was little, and I was parenting her, the other parents did not act like this. Now I have a 5 year old of my own and parents my own age act far more selfishly.

Answer 17

mr hate try being a poor working mom with a kid, work and poverty to handle and then be judjemental- till then keep up the good work of pushing the cart but dont expect me to swoon over your immense concern for the baby and hatred for the mother