The object of my affection lives 150 miles away?

Question

I was in what was becoming a relationship when the girl I was dating had to move home which was a few hours away. We tried to see each other often still, but eventually the distance was starting to make an impact and she got very busy with school, work, and was on crutches for about 2 months from a knee surgery. The result was that she said she didnt have time to be with me even though she wishes she did. Months have gone by, we still talk and hang out every now and then (at least once a month, but not enough to have a worthwhile relationship) but I'm still crazy about her. I think the distance and the absence maybe made her forget about the feelings she had for me a little bit. I really really like her and even with months having gone by I can't get her out of my head... I'd do anything to have her really but know I cant right now. Is there a chance of her one day rediscovering those feelings for me say if she happened to move back to town? Has anyone experienced a situation like this where they were able to rekindle what they had with someone who kind of went away for a while? Please help...

Answer 1

You might be why she had to move back home.  She is likely trying to ease you out the door but you are being dense and not getting the hint.  If she is distant she will never agree to move back to town with you so has you face to face every time she turns around.  Its time to move on and let her get on with her life and you get on with yours.

Answer 2

Why don't you tell her how you feel. I'm sure she can see the effort you are putting in to keep the relationship. She does need to do her part as well. You can't be putting in all the effort.

I had a situation where the object of my affection lived about 800 miles away. We had a great phone, IM, webcam relationship for awhile. It didn't last and now I don't hear from him at all. I realized that if there is no effort, there is no relationship. I can't do all the work myself! If the other person isn't putting in ANY effort then there is no point in continuing.

Good luck!