The only way to have fun is to do bad stuff?

Question

ok my friend told me that she was with another girl and 2 boys and one of the boys brought a beer, and i guess my friend drank the whole thing and they all went pool hopping

i talked to my one friend...we'll call him B. and B said "so i drank a whole beer before" and i said "but its illegal, ur under age and so am i" and he said "Meagan you just dont know how to have fun" and i said "You can have fun withought drinking or being immature" and he said "do you even plan on drinking when you're older" and i said "no" and he said "what about when we go to highschool parties and someone brings beer ur not gonna have one?" and i said "no" and he said "see you're no fun"

I think beer is sick and it just messes up our minds, Ok i admit i am mature while all of my other friends have not reached maturity level yet, i went thru puberty rlly quickly. and i think God wouldnt want me to waste my time acting like a fool of myself drinking, i mean ya i do want to go to highschool parties, but if someone brings a beer i would never drink, i dont rlly plan on drinkin in my life, i dont want to, its sick...alot of people think im boring because im not immature 24/7 and it makes me sad because i never get invited to do anything with them and i dont have alot of friends so im trying to make more friends....what should i do

Answer 1

join a club or sport to make some new friends. dont become something your not.

also drinking is a sin so 1 point for you.

Answer 2

lighten up drinking isnt all that bad, yeah when people have too many it can get out of control but one or two isnt "sick" as you put it. Your right your friends do sound immature but to be honest you sound a bit self-rightous and judgemental.

Answer 3

Well, first of it you try to be yourself. Don't worry about what others say to you. If they are making you do bad things and they're your friends, don't follow them.

being sensible and mature is needed when you are growing up. You need to make choices.

Remember the effects of drinking beer. It's addictive and all that.

Remember that you can have fun without doing bad/illegal things.

Drinking is not having fun. Its only going to mess up minds and futures.

You should have courage to say no to all bad things if you really believe they are not good for you.

Answer 4

You and your friends are on different levels of maturity at the moment, but good one for not drinking. I myself am 25, but don't drink any alcohol and plan not to for the rest of my life. I don't see the need to drink. I see the need not to drink, when a person dies of cirrhosis of the liver, or in a drink driving accident. Or when a person becomes so addicted to alcohol that all reason is gone from that person.

Where is the fun in all that?

You should let them know that drinking is boring and immaturity is only cute for awhile, but then gets really annoying or really stupid.

Immaturity does not denote fun, rather implies stupidity.

Why don't you go somewhere fun, for yourself and meet like minded people or at leat people who will respect you for your beliefs.

The people around me drink, but they respect me enough not to laugh and say that I am boring. I can accept their drinking, may not like it, for their own sake, but accept it as long as they don't make me drink.

I don't smoke too or do drugs.

Those who say that you are no fun because you do not participate in their antics, have no capacity to understand another concept of fun or that the fun is actually within a person's ability to enjoy themselves and let others enjoy themselves too, by their thoughtfulness, their company and that does not have to involve anything bad.

Bad is not fun. Illegal certainly is not. I have done the fun thing, nothing illegal, but still fun as your friends might term it and I cringe at those moments of extreme stupidity.

Go out, enjoy yourself as you want to. Do what is fun for yourself. When you have lived long and well, and you see those early binge drinkers, regretting their youthful mistake, you still have your health, your vitality, even in the autumn of  your life, you will know you made the right choice.