The person at work turned up at my door?

Question

well yesterday i started my new job i had some problems so this man at work Flinn helped after our shift i repayed the favor and took him out for a coffee as we left we hugged and when i got in the car he decided to snog me i pulled away and told him i have a daughter with someone else and i am married i have a son and i am pregnant so i am sorry he apologized

but today at my other job one of my workers gave me a bunch of flowers and said these are from a person called flin i was gobsmacked but about 3 hours ago i got a text saying do you want to go out for a coffee tomorrow

i didn't reply then about 45 minutes ago he came to my house i said what are you doing here he replied the only thing i came here was to see you i said i have told you this yesterday i am married then my son ran out he said i take this is your son then my daughter came and this is my daughter now this is why i am married to my hubby at that time hy husband was out but when my kids went in he started snogging me i felt like i couldn't pull away he then put his arms around me and then he pulled away and said see you at work i said ok

i went in and a little while after my husband came back from his mates i was so relieved should i tell my husband and if not what should i do i feel so bad and also would you say that i am cheating on my husband !!!!!!!! please help i need advise on what to do

Answer 1

I don't at all believe that you're an innocent victim.  First of all when a co-worker does you a favor you either help them out with a project of theirs or you pick up some take out & bring it to them.  You didn't have to invite him outside of the office by YOURSELVES to repay him.

Then you say he made out with you at the car but this was only your FIRST day at work?  Then he sends flowers to your OTHER job?  How does someone who you JUST met know exactly where your other job is & ALSO where you live?

And what man is THAT stupid to show up at your house not knowing that your husband could be there & he just might get his @SS kicked?  And then he proceeds to grope you again at your house when your husband could show up any minute but you felt that couldn't pull away?

If you ARE telling the truth which I highly doubt then you need to get yourself a whole lot more balls than you currently have.  Because if some dude tried to make out with me MORE THAN ONCE & he had already been told then he would get popped in the mouth for sure!

Answer 2

You are full of sh*t.

Either that or you just have a trashy life.

As I have said before, in the time of a week you have thrown yourself down the stairs, seen your ex-husband's parents, been to hospital, started a new job and now this is the 2nd time you have kissed this guy.

You are either making it all up for some strange reason or you are just a nasty person who needs professional help to get your life in order.

Answer 3

Geez! Call the police! Tell the man that he got the wrong idea and if he doesn't leave you alone you will have him arrested. Sounds like a weirdo to me. Dangerous.

Answer 4

Open your door and your legs, why not.

Answer 5

Definitely tell your husband.  Go to work and tell this guy sorry for all the wrong signal and to stop all these flowers and following you to your home, that just plain scary, or you'll call the police or your manager.

Next time you want to show a little appreciation do it in a group.  

Answer 6

You know, I may not be British, but I DO know that schools still teach grammar and punctuation.  Your post is almost impossible to decipher because you jump from one thought to another with no breaks.  So how about hitting "Add Details" and put in some periods and commas and such?

For the Americans who don't know, "snogging" is kissing.

Are you cheating on your husband?  YES.  Why do you even need to ask?  You're making out with another man in front of your children.  You didn't smack the man across the face and tell him to leave you alone, that you're married and not interested.  Instead, you made certain Flinn is aware that you are VERY interested.

What are you going to do when one of your coworkers mentions to your husband that some other man is sending you flowers?  And may I be a fly on the wall when your kids tell Daddy that Mommy was kissing somebody else, and Mommy calls them liars right to their face?  

You weren't gobsmacked.  You're enjoying it.

Answer 7

Being American, I understand very little of what you said here but I get the feeling that these guys wanted more than to go over receipts from work, eh?

Answer 8

can someone Email me and tell me what Snogging   is?

You need to tell you Husband what this guy is doing,I bet he is going to stalk you if you do not nip this in th behind right Now. I think he took your kindness for much more.Don't be alone with him and keep an eye on your children.

Answer 9

just curious

You say "he decided to snog me "

and "he started snogging me "

What is that?? What is snogging? I am lost

well either way it sounds like you have a stalker

Thanks bookshop_lady...i was so confused.

Answer 10

you confuse me. Why is your story always different?

Answer 11

This guy sounds like he sexually harassing you now. It probably was not a good idea to go for coffee with him, you slightly opened that forbidden door. I know you thought it was a nice way to say thanks but just saying thank you would have been good enough. I would tell my husband the whole story, he might be upset at first, but tell him you did not know he was going to be hounding you. Tell your boss too or let this guy know before telling any one that you are not available and do not like what he is doing. tell him if he does not stop stalking you you will go to the authorities, and let your husband know what has been going on too if he does not stop sexually harassing you. If he still makes you uncomfortable let the boss know so he can talk to him.