The"Having Children Conversation"with your significant other.?

Question

I've been with my significant other for four years.And we recently had a conversation about children.So I said,"When are we going to have some children?"So,to make a long story short,he was like,"I'm not going to be waiting all day."He has me by some years,so I was just telling him that I'm not having any children until I am financially stable and have a career going on,you know.But the bottom line is, I was and still is, hurt by this. Because I feel as though, how can a person who says that they love you,this and that,but isn't willing to wait for you to have children.I believe that a man should want to wait on his lady to reproduce,right?We really aint finish the conversation,so how can talk to him about this?All advice is appreciated.Thank you.

Answer 1

You will NEVER be financially ready to have children so that argument is out.  You say you want to have a career "going on", but raising children is a full time career for a woman so in my opinion, that argument is out also.  You have plenty of time for a career AFTER your children are raised.  But, if you do not feel ready to have children for any reason, you should not feel forced as you will just resent them when they are born.  So, in the decision on children, both parties need to be in agreement or the "no" always wins.

Answer 2

First off, when it comes to having babies, there are two things you will NEVER have enough of, no matter what you do and those two things are:

TIME

and

MONEY

Trust me on that one.

ADD ON- Just wanted to add, and I see "Emanon" said it, if you have "a career going" how will you make time for a baby?  Daycare is no place for young ones.