The spark is gone and all that is left is guilt and misery. how can ?

Question

i make him face this truth and end the relationship without the either of us getting hurt?

Answer 1

if you loved him en being with him u can do it again try counseling try going out en having fun it will come vback ahgaim separation is not the best solution

Answer 2

You sound really sad...  I'm sorry for the tough time you are going through. I don't think that just because the 'spark' has gone, that it needs to end.  Trust me, I have been married nearly 7 years and we have REALLY had our tough times - there are many times I could have walked away! Easily!  BUT, had I done that... then I wouldn't have what I have now - we are sooo much stronger because we both endured through the tough times.  Society makes it so easy now just to walk away when the going gets tough...  you don't learn from that.  You just learn to quit.  

I wrote a post today that might help you out - check it out: http://www.squidoo.com/tipsandwaystosave...

All the best x

Answer 3

you can't end a marriage with out getting hurt some what, But i'm sure you and him will be better off if you let him know, just make sure you've done everything in your power to make it work, and if it doesn't then atleast you tried, its better to end something now, then live a life. You just have to let him know you can't control what you feel, its just the way it is.

Answer 4

U really need to sit down with this person n talk bout ur feelings.. If u notice th spark gone then mayb they do to..

Answer 5

You are going to have to talk to him about how you feel. I mean it is not fair to stay in the relationship if nobody is getting love. Rather now than years later when things are more complicated and it's way too late to leave.

Answer 6

You didn't say how long you've been married, but maybe you're both in a slump.  Just have a good talk together.  Did you or he cheat?  If that's the case, get a divorce and move on.  If there's no spark, that usually means you're not communicating.  Do you still love each other?  Sounds like you want out for some reason........  so just divorce and live with the consequences of the choices you make.  

Answer 7

It's sounds like it's time for a nice heart to heart. Your the one who knows him the best, so do what is comfortable for the two of you.

Answer 8

You can't.  There's almost always one person hurt when a marriage ends, usually two.  You need to just talk to him and see how he feels.