The truth about interracial marriges?

Question

Is it really true that the majority of interracial marriges are started from both people not feeling "acceptance" within there own race? Or is it because both of them seem to of gravitated towards one anothers race?

Ive heard BOTH sides of the story and still to this day personally feel that there are MANY different sides to why each person choose to marry interracially BUT i can tell you this, the one thing they share in common is love and that love will be instilled in their children and they will be taught to love people regardless of there race...

I dont know why people seem to use the excuse that if 2 people marry interracially then there child will come out "confused" and lost because they dont fit in with the white and not with the blacks.. etc.. but in case you havent noticed REGARDLESS if there mixed as long as your human you will feel like you sometimes dont fit in and "try" to fit in.. you will make mistakes and learn from them.. i mean thats what life is about.. so for you to say it as if the child will be in a terrible state and all that is bull.. we learn from our ENVIORNMENT and SURROUNDINGS, and as long as your surrounded by good caring people you should never feel not loved even if "some" people may not like you.

Answer 1

So what your saying is that all those successful black men who choose to date outside of there race on a common basis, are feeling resentment and whip lash from there own community, which forces them to date white women?

Thats bull faeces and you know it too.

Answer 2

Okay, I never married my son's father, and we're not together anymore BUT...I am white and I am skinny/average. for whatever reason (probably because I never really was around black guys a lot) i never even thought about dating a black guy. while i was working though, right after a bad breakup i happened to notice this guy who just caught my eye, something about him ya know? We hit it off and were together for a while until after i had our son. I honestly was just attracted to him, and i dont think it was just because he was black, i wasnt trying to rebel cuz my family isnt against interracial dating.  So, in my experience, i just had the right chemistry with him, there was a spark. it definitely opened my mind though to dating other people. i havent dated again yet but to me it doesnt matter if the next guy is white or black.  to be honest though, to be fair to my son i kinda feel obligated to date another black guy, especially if im gonna have more children. i dont want my son to feel different from his brothers or sisters. but if i meet a nice white guy who treats my son like a star no matter what then i guess as long as hes loved it doesnt matter.

Answer 3

I have always felt accepted in my own race...and I have always had friends and boyfriends of many cultures. My choice in a partner is not because of his color...but because we have a lot in common. I actually have more black friends than white friends, and I'm with a caucasion.

I agree that we are all human and we will all face obstacles in our lives...no matter what color we are. We do learn from our surroundings.

Hugz!!

Answer 4

I've dated black men. Why? because we have something in common and I and he were attracted to each other. My best friend has a mulatto child. I watched him grow up. He's 22 now. he is not, and never was "confused".

Answer 5

My friends are in a bi-racial marriage and I know they just really loved eachother.  They have 3 great kids who are popular in school and great in sports. They enjoy both cultures and they have kind of their own "culture" going on.  Remember, it does take a village to raise a child.  

Answer 6

Honey, you and Qwerty have to be in the top five smartest people on this site!  Seriously, I thought I was the only one who actually saw this!  You give me hope in the human race!

Answer 7

My grandmother who is from Guam and Grandfather who is black  married each other because they had  similar  interest , morals, and everything else that came with it. My mother was  nor her sisters and brothers where never confused  about who they where . They knew they were half pacific islander and half black . They  embraced both cultures to the point they passed them down to their children. For instance my mother  still  install some of Guam's culture with in her children even though we are a quarter pacific islander.

However, now days I feel interracial dating in some cases became in style , its the in thing to do .  That's what some people of younger and my generation operate on .

Second, reason I feel people interracial  date because they  feel the grass is greener on the other side

Third I feel some people Interracial date because they actually see the person and not the color of their skin .

Last  I feel some people INTERRACIAL DATE because  they prefer on physical characteristic over the other . .  

Answer 8

The truth about interracial marriage will vary from couple to couple.  In my case, I fell in love with a man, not a white man.  A man.  He sees me as a woman and not a black woman.  It's not like we ignore race.  We talk about race all the time (in the sociological sense).  Yet it was not race that drew us to one-another.  It was chemistry.  I have dated black men, Hispanic men, and other white men before I finally met the man of my dreams.  We found love in one another.  

The people who make up silly rumors about interracial marriages and relationships are usually the main ones who are against them to begin with.  

People say things like:

-Bi-racial children have hard lives

-White men don't want white women who have dated black men

-Black men think they're too good for black women

-Interracial relationships never work

in order to discourage people from getting into interracial relationships.  Their agenda is painfully obvious.

All children have hard lives.  All children get made fun of.  Marriages in general don't work out.  Race has nothing to do with it.  Besides, what is race, anyway?  Aren't we all human?  Why do we separate ourselves into categories?

Sometimes I think the whole of humanity are a bunch of m*******t punks.

Answer 9

to be honest before whe I was young I was rejected by black children because they said I was trying to be white(grades speech..etc) and thats kinda why I started dating outside of my race/ but now black people dont  have that point of view on such a large scale and datuing interracially is more of a simple case of boy meets girl nothing more