Theres Got To Be More To The Story, Dont You Think?

Question

A 20 year old girl I work with moved out on her own 2 or 3 years ago, now living back with her parents. Apparently there had always been a lot of yelling and fighting before and since. I dont think there was any hitting, not sure.

She said that the other day while she was in the shower her parents took her money, her whole paycheck. I asked if they had a rent agreement or perhaps they were holding it so she doesnt blow it. She said not.

I cant believe her parents just STOLE her money. Theres got to be more to the story. What do you think?

Answer 1

Some things that are hard to believe sometimes are the whole truth.  Parents do some bad and unethical things to their children.  For example, my step daughter has her in-laws living with her.  My son-in-law's father borrowed almost his whole paycheck because "he had to make his truck payment" but then turned around and spent it on something else instead of paying the truck payment.  I don't understand how parents can have that kind of disrespect for their children but it does happen.

On the other hand, you know her better than any of us possibly could.  If there's something telling you that something just isn't right there, then don't disregard that instinct.  Your gut feelings tell you more than you realize.  Take her words with a grain of salt.  

If she asks to borrow money from you (which it sounds like what this is leading to), I would call her parents and get their side of the story.

Answer 2

There could be, I cant imagine any parent going into their adult child's personal belongings and stealing her money. Do you know her parents well? My daughter in laws mother did that to my son and daughter in law. When they got married and left 2 days after the wedding for Germany where my son is stationed... many wedding cards came in and mailed to her mothers house and they all had checks in them and 2 people put cash ( how stupid) she knows her daughters signature and knows how to do this. She cashed the checks. How, her daughter worked at the bank where her mother banks at and they know her and trust her. $1,300 GONE!

Answer 3

as amazing as it sounds some parents are that way and will steal money. but they may not have and she is trying to cover up something.

Answer 4

My mo stole money a friend gave me, 'your friends don't care about you enough to give you money, you stole it from me'

No, my friend really did give me money so I could move out.

Her parents might be crack heads or just greedy?

Answer 5

I'm guessing it was a two sided thing. And I'm also guessing you have only heard it from her point of view. It takes two to tango!

Answer 6

I think you're right.

  Obviously without knowing the people or their circumstances it's impossible to know what exactly went on, but I don't buy the story that her parents out and out stole her money.

  It sounds more like an excuse than a plausible explanation, and is probably an attempt to cover-up the real reason that she doesn't have any money when she should.

Answer 7

yes! there has to be more to the story! i have no idea what it could be- but they wouldnt just flat out take it out of her room. if they were sleazy enough to steal from her they would do it in a unnoticeable way. so there has to be other reasons for them to take it. u no wat tho? maybe she exaggerated that a little, maybe for attention, or maybe she was mad at her parents and just wanted to talk c**p on them. i have no idea what kinda girl she is or what kinda home life she has, so it could be one of a trillion diff things. but as long as she doesnt come into work beat up, then whats goin on shouldnt bother u- let her fix and deal with her parents and their problems. but since she had already moved out it sounds like that moving back was a bad idea. try to suggest to her about finding a friend to room with and get their own place if she cant afford it on her own.

Answer 8

I doubt they just took the money for no reason. She's 20 years old and she would not live there if they were stealing from her.

There is more to the story.  Either she owes them money or else they disapprove of how she spends her money.  

Answer 9

Well I work in law enforcement and let me tell you there are some rotten parents out there. I see parents steal from their kids to buy drugs all the time. I see parents that don't work and sit at home while they make their kids actually support them. It wouldn't surprise me for this to be true. I always thought all adults were honest like my parents until I started this job and I was amazed to see how many parents take advantage of their kids. She is probably telling the truth.

Answer 10

Maybe but maybe not. If she moved out at 17 or 18 then her parents are probably real pieces of work. Yelling and fighting doesn't usually mean a peaceful, normal family environment. Either she's lying and she's the reason for all of the yelling and fighting or her parents are nut jobs.  

Answer 11

Only she and her parents really know.  Truly sad if they did in fact steal her money.

Answer 12

they are her parents  i do not think they took her money just for the heck of it  besides parents and kids fight especially over matters  that  affect their kids she might be spending her money irresponsibly or giving it to a boyfriend  if my kid was tossing away their money i too would take it and save it oh, and keep some for room and board

Answer 13

Yeah, there are two sides to every story.  She's probably not telling you some details, lol.

Answer 14

The first thing I thought was, "Why did she have her whole paycheck in cash in her purse?  Does she not use banks?"

Sounds fishy to me...but honestly, it doesn't really matter...because this isn't your problem.  I'm not saying that to sound callous but am saying it to remind you to NOT make this YOUR problem.  Do not lend this girl money, okay?  She lives with her parents (albeit possibly cruel dishonest parents) so she has a roof over her head and food in her tummy and she has a job...there can be no such emergency in her life that she would be harmed or otherwise suffer if you don't give her money, okay?

If her parents did take it, she's learned her lesson...don't leave money accessible by them, open a bank account, save her money and move out.  Sometimes the lessons that suck the worst are the ones that teach us the most, if we let them.

You can give her emotional support by hearing her stories and showing her empathy and encouraging her.  You can give her viable help by going with her to find a safe, affordable place to live.  You can even have her over to dinner and to watch a movie to give her time away from her parents once in a while...just make sure YOUR money's safely hidden as she should have done!

Good luck!  You're kind to be concerned about her...just care for yourself as well!  (And trust your instincts...if they're smelling something fishy then there's probably some truth to that!)

Answer 15

This girl was on her own at 17 or 18 and now 20 back at home, HELLO.

I think that she moved back home because she needed to not that she wanted to.  Remember the saying  "If your going to live under my roof, your going to abey my rules", well probably what is going on.  They are just holding her money to assure that she does not blow it, times are hard and she probably needs help, se moved back home didn't she?.!  YES there is more to this story.  But always remember there are three sides to every story A) side   B)  side  and C) the truth