These dreams oddly tie into my life...what?

Question

So, a few nights ago, I was rejected by a girl who i was 99% sure liked me. That very night I dreamt...

I remember being at school, and standing on a bridge. But...we don't have any bridges at our school. Anyway, I'm leaning on rail of the bridge, and on the opposite rail here are DOZENS of girls, all were classmates. I remember focusing on one girl in particular...I think she liked me last year, but I'm not attracted to her at all. She's loud and annoying.

The second was more tied into my situation. I dreamt the girl who rejected me was sneaking around in my backyard. She then tapped on my window, and I came out. She said she wanted to be with me..but for some reason, I didn't want my family to find out. So while me and the family sat around our fire pit, she hid behid the hot tub (we don't own a hot tub). I snuck back and kissed her, and my family found out she was there. My sister said "We dont care if you two are together or not." Everyone else nodded in agreement.

Help?

Answer 1

Your dreams suggests a shyness that holds you back from the interests you feel in the ladies.

The dreams you describe are a kind of 'cat and mouse' game - you are first focused on one who may be more approachable due to her loud and annoying nature.  Maybe she's not really first choice, but that's the one you land on - approachable seems to be the theme - non-threatening, no others would interfere.

Finally she actually comes to your home and meets you in a senthesized situation of things that don't really exist.  They do however provide an interesting backdrop for your secret meeting.  At last you gain some satisfaction from your pursuit - only to find out that your family realizes it and does not object.  This suggests that you have been seen as a bit shy about approaching girls and your family actually would have no objections.

Consider that - it is of course a normal part of our development.  Think about how you feel inside - is there a fear of rejection?  To be sure, we always risk that in trying to make new friends, or in trying to start something more special with another.  Is this something you yearn for a bit in your heart but find difficult to embark on?  How does your family view these things?

If you find some of these things to be true then you can consciously work on simply breaking the ice with more friendship among the girls at school and other places you frequent.  Go from there - work to overcome any feelings of shyness.  Be a gentleman and don't worry about rejections.  They may come at times but there's no gain without risk.

All the best to you.