These events just can't be a coincidence. (Synchronocity)?

Question

I met a guy almost a year ago who was the most incredible, interesting person I've ever met. Some events and information seem to really have me paranoid. He has disturbing similarities to a former best friend of mine who I don't speak to anymore. I believe he came into my life for a reason. Interesting things. Keep reading.

They are both Capricorns, one day apart in birthdays. They both shared the same phone number with just one number off, and 4 identical numbers in the same order. They both live in apartments where the second number is a 2. Physically, they could pass as twins. The resemblance is unbelievably shocking. They both have similar sounding last names to where it starts with a V and consists of 5 letters, 2 syllables in both.

He has tried to contact me for 6 months but I tried cutting him out of my life because of my emotional distress. I have ran into him three times in the most random of moments, two of which were deja vu (exact same incident repeating itself within hours of each other) and that's when the paranoia began. I feel like it's not over. There must be a reason for this.

What does this mean?

Answer 1

My philosophy is this: If similar situations, people or occurrences keep presenting themselves to you, you are doing something or thinking in a manner that brings them to you. You need to look at the situation carefully and see what you need to learn from it. Maybe there's a personality trait in you that needs to be dealt with - not saying it's necessarily a bad thing - that these people bring out.

I had a serious relationship with a man when I was in college. It lasted a few years and I broke it off. Eight years later, I met another man who drew me in the exact same way the first one did - love at first sight. Their birthdays were 1 day apart. They were so similar in so many ways it was uncanny. I married the second one and I still complain about some of his behavior - the same behavior that I left the first guy over.

But what is significant is not that they were similar to each other, but that both embody SO MANY characteristics of both my parents. I feel I'm being presented with situations that perhaps I didn't deal with early on and now I get a second, third or fourth chance to deal with it rather than run away. I left home to get away from my parents and I left the first guy. Now I'm working on these issues with my husband and myself.

So for you, perhaps it's not over, and maybe there is a reason for the similarities. I think that the similar numbers may not be as significant as the reason you don't speak to the first friend. Perhaps there are issues within yourself and the way you deal with others' behavior that you need to examine and learn to deal with, rather than run from. I would just guess that, from the extreme emotional distress and the paranoia you speak of, perhaps you could use the help of a good psychologist, pastor or someone whom you trust, in order to sift through all this.

Best of luck from another Aquarian!

P.S. If violence was an issue with the friend - don't go there with the man. Deal with that one from a distance.

Answer 2

maybe your old friend is dressing up as a girl to try to stay in your life

Answer 3

First I would like to suggest that the combinations of numbers you have determined are almost identical would not occur to a person who was not obsessive and compulsive about numbers. And people who are OCD can find amazing parallels in ANY situation. So I am totally discounting that information as just your OCD. So you have two similar looking guys (not uncommon) with similar but unusual names (although I know a lot of Vinnys and Victors.) I suspect that your paranoiac feelings are linked to your OCD here and that you are avoiding a person because they remind you of someone else, period.

I play a little game all the time where I cast the people I work with or my friends in the roles of my family members. It tells me why I react to them the ways that I do. We are always reducing a world of different people into a few familiar archetypes (usually from our family.)

I think you are stressing over nothing. But it is just my opinion.

Answer 4

There is no such thing as "coincidence".

EVERYTHING HAPPENS FOR A REASON

There's a reason why so much is similar. You just have to figure out the meaning of your signs....

Answer 5

What does your story means? I guess it means you're risking yourself to lose a good relationship with someone who obviously you like, for some reasons I could not comprehend.

Maybe they're just some coincidence, maybe they're not, maybe that's the part that make you like him more. But my point is, so what? You like him, he sounds like great person, so why you distressed yourself over that?

Answer 6

Yes, dear, they can be a coincidence. The human animal looks for relationships where none exist. In this case, there are many, but life is like that.

Chances of being born on a particular day of the year 1:365

Chances of digits being the same in the second position  1:10

the phone number is weird- but my husband's previous phone number was the same as mine from when I was a little girl- with two numbers transposed.  I sure it is not why we married each other, though.  

Coincidences happen- only humans read something into the meaningless. Just think about how many people have seen Jesus in a piece of toast.

Of course, you are going to find folks that are going to feed into your coincidences. Most of them will be folks under 21. Why? Because youth brings awe.