They Don't Think They Should Buy Gas?

Question

Well see my mom is in the hospital in Lexington, Ky, I live approx. 30 miles away, and they are from about 60 miles south of where I live. Today my family asked me to come up to take my brother back home to feed and water the dogs, since our aunt who has been doing this while my mom was in the hospital is also in the hospital. So I drove to Lexington 30 mile up there and then back home , 60 more miles, then back up to lexington 90 miles thats a total of 180 miles and when I get to the hospital and ask for help with the gas they give me $10.00, that was enough gas for almost 3 gallons of gas, my car gets about 20 miles to the gallon. I put $30.00 right after I picked up my brother because my tank was empty. Is it unreasonable for me to ask my family to help me out, since I have to do all the driving while she is in the hospital ( my brother cant drive). All of my family thinks this is WRONG of me, but my husband just lost his job, and I only work part time. Opinions please

Answer 1

Do explain the situation that you love your family, but make them face reality.  With your financial situation, you cannot be a chauffeur to your brother without getting more money for fuel, since your budget just got very tight.  Sit down with them & have pen & paper in hand to show them the math of fuel costs, mileage, time, etc.  

Do ask for more fuel money, but if they can't cough up the extra cash, stand your ground.  Don't jeopardize your marriage & finances unless your husband gives his blessings.  Be there for your Mom as much as possible, but if you can't do it, you just can't.  Yes, it will be hard.  Try to help your brother find rides with his friends, neighbors, other family, or church members from his home area, or ask a trusted person to care for their house, especially if your Mom is touch & go right now.  Good luck!!

Answer 2

it's family suck it up, if your mom was to die tomorrow will this be that important? your hubby needs to find another job even if its min. wage if money is an issue.

sorry if I offended anyone, went through similar thing with my father dieing but a neighbor broke in house and stole our stuff, if someone cannot take care of animals for them see about having them boarded

Answer 3

Family should help each other out and if you are the only one giving it's upsetting and when you don't have it it's worse. You are already under enough stress because your mom is so sick. As a family you all need to chip in so that you and your brother can spend time with your mother and one of you should not have to struggle financially to do it. I am sure everyone knows your situation and they are taking advantage. Does your brother work? Is there a family member (aunt or uncle) that could help you out a little in this time of need.  Are you going to see your mom daily and is she going to be staying in the hospital now for long term?  I hope things work out it's not a good time to be fighting you are going through enough.

god bless

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