Think i have messed up ?

Question

i was with my boyfriend for 8yrs and we have a 15month old son we split up about a month ago after he disappeared for 2weeks after saying he didnt want anything to do with his son, then he made contact asking to speak to me. i told him that i think he should just concentrate on being a dad to his son. and that we should just be friends again. however today he was asking if it be alright if he could kiss me and cuddle me, i just couldnt because of everything that has happened. i thought i was starting to move on with my life as im starting to go out more however at the weekend one of my male friends kissed me and cuddled me and it was felt really good. my head is so messed up and i dont know what to do

Answer 1

GOOD FOR YOU!

He can't just come wandering in and out of your life as he pleases.  It's not good for either of you, or the little baby.  Next time he suggests something like that tell him in no uncertain terms that he cannot kiss you or cuddle you because you think you should just remain friends.  Tell him to respect your wishes.

In the meantime, go out, enjoy yourself and move on =)

good luck