Think my hubby cheats on me because of baby in our lives?

Question

I had a baby 10 months ago and everything has been great with me and my husband of 4 years until recently. We are arguing all the time and I no longer feel anything for him... is this just a phase or is this a cause of concern? He is always away from the home, but works "on call" a lot and I can never be for sure if he is actually at his job. He also seems to be going out at night more often. It makes me very upset, mainly because I feel very lonely and taking care of the baby all by myself. I am convinced that he no longer finds me attractive (after having a baby) and no longer cares for me...and I am scared that he might be cheating... He is making me feel very neglected but when I bring it up he gets even more mad and says that I don't appreciate him. I am so confused of his behavior..what should I do? Things just don't feel "right" between us, I can sense it.

Thanks...

Answer 1

I always tell women go with your instinct . If he is making drastic changes in his behavior and not staying home when he should be there , then yes go with what you feel. You can't waste your life with someone who doesn't want to be with you and the baby, you might have to consider other options for you and your child. I would first try and see a marriage councilor before doing anything drastic Good Luck and congrats on the new baby.

Answer 2

gut feelings are never wrong........

Answer 3

we all know you go through alot having a baby and being a new mother..    But he is going through alot too..

He's a father now, and he dosne't konw what it means.. after all you take care of the baby 90% of the time.

He no longer is number one to you..  You are focused on one thing...  your new baby.   That takes getting used to for him....   (that's where other girls can easily take him from you)

He can't go out with you like the old days..  he's stuck at home being number two, doing nothing everyday.

so what can you do?  How about really show him you love him...  i konw it won't be easy.  how about give him lots of make-up s*x..  tell him he is the man.. share your baby duties with him.. make him feel part of the mix..  even though he says no..  put it on him...

Answer 4

A baby changes everything.  It is hard to be the way you were before the baby it takes alot of work.  Sometimes a man feels left out or like he is not important anymore when a baby comes.  So you may need to reassure him about how you feel or get a babysitter so you can be alone for a while.  Just talk to him and ask him how he is feeling and tell him how you are feeling and what you are thinking.  He may need you to show him that you still want him.  Let him know how you feel and what you think and give him a chance to explain his feelings.  Do what is best for you and the baby but give him a chance to voice his feelings.

Answer 5

GET YOU A HOLY BIBLE AND READ IT ,,, DONT TAKE REVENGE TALK TO GOD

Answer 6

Wow..

Always trust your instincts..

You should investigate.

Answer 7

I don't think the problem is you or the baby. It seems like your husband is feeling left out since the baby is getting more than 80% of your attention now. It might be wise to find a babysitter for the weekend  and do something special for him. Clean the house and remove all the baby items, lite candles and dress very s**y for him. Remind him how things used to be before you had the baby and that having a baby did not change you or your love for him. Try a new s*x position and ask him what he wants you to do for him to blow his mind. He probably just feels unwanted and not needed so make the whole weekend about him and satisfy all his needs and wants. Take him out for a romantic dinner or cook his favorite meal. Don't talk about the baby or "your problems" for the whole weekend. Before the baby returns, tell him how much you love him and how your love for him will never change. You both created that child and so the both of you have to work together to raise that child.

Good Luck and keep hoping for the best!

Answer 8

If you feel nothing for him anymore then why do you even care if he is cheating on you?

Answer 9

have you talked to him? if not you need to talk to him about what you are feeling.  If you don't  talk to each other than it will very bad for both of you. The more you talk the more you guys can work it out.

Answer 10

Who was pushing for the baby, it sounds like it definitely wasn't him.  So now in  his mind, you wanted the baby, so you deal with it.

Answer 11

I dont think your husband is having an affair- to be completely honest I think he is just getting out of the house, i think you will find that he is confused because he doesnt know what you want either...im not putting any blame on you at all, but mayeb you could be having post natal depression? hence why you are finding it hard to connect with him and the convincing that he doesnt find you attractive any more?

I really do think it would be beneficial for you to see  you doctor about this, possibly even a family counsellor, and im sure that once you talk to your husband he will open up and let you know what is going on.

Remember that having a baby changes your whole life and sometimes it can effect you in ways you didnt expect, so try to be patient and open up to him about how you are feeling

Answer 12

michelle, you need restoration and God. Please join us at freebiblemail.com and click on prayer.........this may have saved my marriage, I came across it while I was experiencing the same behavior from my mife. Humor me.....go there and read what we talk about. Im sure you are ready to try anything.  here, take my hand.........Lord above, tonight I pray for Michelle, that she may find aswers to questions she has. I pray her husband might see how much she misses him and needs him in her life. PLease refill their marriage woth the love and understanding they had when they first met. IN Your name we pray.AMEN

hope 2 c u there, my name is jason the carpenter