Thinking About Adoption.........?

Question

Yes, I know a month ago I said I was considering adoption and people said now wasn't the best time with what was going on and I agreed.

But now I have recently moved into a bigger home, have a better job with flexible hours and really, really want to adopt. I have 4 kids that are 9 months, 5(almost 6), 10 and 12. Now I know my 9 month old might sound like it would be hard for me to have another child, plus a baby, but it wouldn't. And even though I work, I am now getting an opportunity to work at home 3 out of the 5 days I work and there is a daycare at my work.

Does anyone have any good websites or tips about adoption? I live in Arizona, but I'd be willing to adopt from anywhere.

Thanks in advance!

Answer 1

with my first baby , i put her up for adoption ( private\open) adoption  at  www.adoption.com   i think it is a great site.

Answer 2

Go to a conference/seminar to get educated and learn all the latest information. Conferences are sponsored by Resolve (http://www.resolve.org) and the American Fertility Assocation (http://www.theafa.org). You'll learn about domestic and international adoptions, costs, paperwork, etc. Plus they'll have agencies and attorneys on site that you can talk with. If they don't have a conference in your area, contact them for resources in Arizona.

Answer 3

if you think you would be okay with adopting then do it

Answer 4

Gabbie,

Do your research and know the facts. There are alot of good adoption agencies out there who have a fair outlook for the childrens well being and the adoptive family as well.

Read up Read up Read up...........

Personally China was good for my family but the waiting periods are going up lately so you have to weigh all the facts before you decide.

Best wishes for your growing family.

Answer 5

From an early age - I had to be in child-care - as my adoptive father died - and my a-mum had to go back to full-time work.

For me - as an adoptee - I absolutely hated being cared for by others. I thought my a-mum was pushing me away.

I already lost my first mother - by being adopted.

Then I had to lose my second mother - for too many hours of every day - because she had to work.

Adopted kids need adoptive parents that will be there for most of their waking hours.

It wasn't until I was in my 30's that I came to realise why I feared being left by loved ones.

All those years of separation from both my mothers - hurt me to my core.

Please think carefully about what you intend to do.

Adoption should be about what's best for the child.

The adopted child needs you to be front and centre to their needs. They require the most of you that you can give.

Your question speaks to me of your 'wants' - not of a situation that is in the best interests of an adoptive child.

You already have 4 kids - that also require you to be there for them - especially the younger two.

I think delaying your adoption plans would be best - for your family - and for the adoptee.

Answer 6

Patience is absolutely necessary!! The adoption process is nearly always a slow one. As is a good head for lots of paperwork.  

Since you have several children of many ages, foster adoption or older-child adoption might be a great option for you. These processes tend to be somewhat faster than infant adoption, since there are so many waiting children.

Go for open adoption if at all possible.

Answer 7

www.adoptive-parenting.com

Written by an adoptive mother of four girls (under the age of 5) who cares for 8 kids during the week - all under the age of five. YES, it's possible. lots of good solid information in the website.