Thinking about adopting....?

Question

I know this isn't an adoption agency but I was wondering me and hubby are considering adopting and I was wondering if

someone could email me or answer here some info, my email is [e-mail]

Is it true that if you go through the government it wouldn't cost anything??

What exactly is a home study what do they do?

Will it take a long time since I live in a very very small town that no one hardly knows of? LOL I live in Stuart, VA

Or if anyone is out there looking to give their baby up for adoption and don't mind moving out here and I help

until the pregnancy goes through and we go through the adoption and I help you get settled on your feet the best I can?

Please help and no stupid answers.

Always Remember,

GOD LOVES YOU!

Answer 1

There's the orphanage if you want to adopt from there. Good luck with finding a baby. =)

Answer 2

I'm sorry about your father's health, and understand your feelings to have a family now.  But becoming a parent, through adoption or biology, is not an easy or quick solution to any of your family issues.  A child should never have to live up to any expectations of being needed in the family, to make a couple happy, or to fill a void.

And the Internet is not an appropriate place to solicit for a baby.  It is illegal and unethical.

But --  it does not matter where you live at all.  If you get an approved homestudy done, apply to an agency, get approved there, then they can place a baby with any couple anywhere in the United States.  But that is the hard part -- getting approved.

Please see the answer to the question posted before you.  You have to meet standards -- stable employment and good income, stable home, stable relationships with family and friends who are appropriate, time for a child, medical insurance, references, good health, no addictions, no criminal history, no child abuse allegations, etc., etc.

And usually over 25.  And, a birthmother has to select you!  That is harder for some folks.  Most birthmothers prefer educated, Christian, mature couples who have careers and have been married 5+ years.

Good luck to you both, and your father.

Answer 3

I was adopted, and according to my parents it can be extremely expensive....my parents ended up paying over 30,000 dollars to get me, and its even more expensive if you go out of the country. But its all well worth it I am sure. The best thing do to is to just go online and find adoption agency's in your area and go from there. It can take up to 2 years to be placed with a child or it could happen as quickly as 6 months...it just depends. Lots of luck!!

Answer 4

There are many ways it could work out. You can choose to have a closed adoption (no contact with the birth mother), a semi-open adoption (where you have correspondence with the birth mother and maybe exchange pics, video's of the child, etc , but there would be no visitation by the birth mother) or you can have an open adoption (where the birth mother is able to see the child, but has no legal rights to the child).

As for the requirements they vary state to state. Home visits may be required, a background check, etc. Check with your local Dept. Child and Family Services to see what they are.

You can choose to adopt from the foster care system. This does tend to be the least expensive option, but try to foster the child first to make sure you mesh well-(these types of adoptions are almost always closed) . On the down side many of these children have been traumatized by their birth parents, so counseling for them maybe needed-but these children are the most rewarding to adopt! These adoptions also go through your local Dept. Child and Family Services.

You can choose to do an adoption through an attorney or an adoption agency. You can choose what type of adoption you want, but these tend to be the most expensive, and the birth mother can change her mind (you would have to check with your state to see how long they have to change their minds)

So, depending on what kind of adoption you are looking to do contact your local Dept. Child and Family Services for foster care children, or contact an attorney or adoption agency.

What you may consider doing is finding an adoptive parents support group as they would know more options.

it really all depends if you are wanting to do international, or domestic adoption

Good Luck and God Bless

Answer 5

call an adoption agency. a home study is where a social worker from the government (if you adopt through the state) or from an agency (if you adopt that way) meets with you 3 or 4 times to get to know you and be sure you and your family and your lifestyle will be a good place to bring up a child. It is not a time when they are looking for the "perfect" family. Social workers aren't expecting everything to look ideal -- they want to know why you want to adopt a child, why you want to be parents, what you expect being a parent will entail, how you plan to support the child, how you plan to raise the child, and if they thinkyou are capable of being parents. They will come to your home and spend a few hours actually in your home with you just looking at the environment and observing. They will not be scrutinizing every word or looking to be sure there isn't a drop of dust on the furniture. Their job is to be sure you will be providing a normal, healthy environment for a child.

Good luck!

Answer 6

I know this has nothing to do with this but it is some information... In japan if you have a baby they will give you $40,000 plus a cellphone for the baby just to let you know it would be good for you and your baby...

Answer 7

my cousin adopted a baby from china, and shes sooooo adorable.  she didnt adop0t from the us because: it takes longer ( i think) and the parents could take bake the baby at any time before the adoption is final!!!!!!!!! and you wouldnt get your money back!!!!!!!!!  she didnt adopt from europe, because: eastern european babies dont bond as quickly as chinese babies.  there are many chinese babies (mostly girls) that will never get adopted.  my cousin figured out that about 1/3 of those in the orphanages actually find a home!!!!!!!!!!!  my chinese cousin has been living in our family for 2 years this july, and shes wonderful!!!!!!!!!!!!!  when i grow upo to adopt im DEFINETELY adopting from china.

Answer 8

sorry i don't know because I'm 14 years old

Answer 9

it does cost some money i have three adopted chidren all very young

Answer 10

My parents adopted a little girl from China. We started in 2004, and we just got her last September. International adoption isn't the best choice if you want a baby soon.

Answer 11

Yes, if you adopt through the state it costs nothing or very little.

The social worker conducting the homestudy will check your home to make sure it's clean and safe.  They'll check references and your criminal record via finger prints.  They'll check your finances and work history.  They'll ask questions about your religion, your discipline plan, your s*x life, your childhood, and medical history.  It's pretty invasive but worth it when you adopt your child.