Thinking about breaking up?

Question

I really care for him and love him but I don't feel the same way about him I once did. I was crazy about him and now its just =/ yea. We have been together for 6 months. I am 17, turning 18 in November, and he is 26. I don't want to hurt him but don't know what to do or how to do it.

Answer 1

If you really care and love him, you will work to get pass the blah-zay feelings. Once we get to know a person well, things seems to not be as exciting as they once were. All relationships go through this phase and only true and real love, moves beyond and holds on.

Unfortunately, this is the time where you both have to come up with things to keep on another excited about the relationship and looking forward to being together. If you are tired of things and can't find it in your heart to fix it, you should talk to him about your feelings, it's possible that he feels the same way.

This is a subject that the two of you need to address, so, don't make a decision based upon what we think. If you love him and he wants to work it out, give it a chance. It's best to give it a try and fail then to go through the torture of knowing you made a mistake, fighting to get him back whilie not realizing things will never be the same if you get him back.

If you know for sure that you don't want to work it out, tell him the truth and get on with your life. Don't hang on to him for any reason ther than you want and love him.

Good Luck!!!

Answer 2

Just come right out and say it.  If you know you don't want to be in the relationship, the sooner you make your exit, the better.  You should definitely act on these feelings because they come from the little voice in your head that is trying to tell you that you aren't satisfied in the relationship - time won't make it go away.  You're still early in the relationship, but if you wait too long, you risk a longer drawn out breakup.

Answer 3

u have probably felt the problems of bein wit an older guy

well u cant lead him on anymore, u should break it off

Answer 4

id say go for it. sounds like it was infatuation

Answer 5

You really seem to want to break up because you went to the trouble of writing this question. So I can assume that you have spent quite a bit of time thinking about this. You seem to have already made up your mind frankly.

You say you don't feel that way towards him anymore, so the best thing for both of you is to break up. It is true, you will hurt him initially. But isn't it better that you break up now rather than stringing him along when he could be finding someone that is better suited for him?

As for the how, that's difficult. I've never actually had to break up with someone. But I'd suggest saying something similar to what you said here. Sit him down and have a talk. Tell him that you used to be crazy about him, but now the feelings have kind of died away.

Be kind, as he will probably feeling bad, but also be firm (ie that this is definitely the end)

Breaking up is never fun, but it's what best for both of you.

Answer 6

If you have any doubts now, they'll just get worse.  Break up with him now.  Stop delaying the inevitable!!!

Answer 7

Follow your heart. If you want to stay with him then stay with him. If you want to break up with him then break up with him. He will understand any choose you make.

Answer 8

I think is normal for a couple to drift apart people change and move on, like you said his 26 I am sure his ready to settle down and your just turning 18 and you want to do and try new things. I am sure if your honest and tell him what's going on he will undertand if he loves you. good luck =)  

Answer 9

Be honest. Let him know that the spark isn't really there. Or, you're gonna be 18 so are you a senior in high school? Tell him that you need to take a break and concentrate on school, enjoying your last year before college and stuff like that.

Answer 10

Before you make your decision sit down and think about the reasons you want to break up and reasons you'd want to stay together. If you find yourself staying with this guy because you're afraid of being alone, meeting someone new, or afraid to hurt him... break up. It's not fair for you or him to continue a relationship that your hearts not in. Good luck making your decision. I'm sure you'll choose what's best for you in the end.  

Answer 11

how in the heck? you have a bf thats wayy older than you.

i'm wondering how did that work out??

because i'm 14 and the guy i'm talking to is 18

a lot of people are saying that i shouldnt be with him, but he is abosolutly amazing.

Answer 12

you need to be honest to him. tell him how you've been feelinng then go from there!

Answer 13

If you truly love him, then I suggest you talk to him about it... but if you don't truly care about him, then it would be best to break up... I mean why would you want to spend time with someone who you don't like instead od spending time with someone who you do like??? It doesn't make any sense, but hopefully my advice helps!!!

Answer 14

If you have the feeling that you need to break up with him I would say do it. TRUST YOURSELF!

Answer 15

You are young,  follow your gut...just be nice, don't hurt him , you will ruin him for someone that will want him

don't burn any bridges