Thinking of having another baby...not sure?

Question

My husband and I have been married for 11 years. We have a 3 year old son. We are thinking of having another baby. (We are both going to be 37 in September.) We know we both want one but we are kind of freaking out about the money part of it. I no longer have maternity coverage because I am self employed. My husband has always been self employed. I do have that basic coverage stuff for our family but it does not cover the birth but will cover a new baby after the birth.

The other thing was the second child coming into the mix. I know how it is with one. I have a few friends that had 2 and all of them said they love their second but wish they only had 1. Sounds kind of scary. Not sure if I will mentally be able to handle it again. I don't want to deprive my son of a sibling and our family of another blessing for my own selfish feelings. I know the sleepless nights will not last forever.

Please give me any stories you have of your second or third children. I want to hear positive things. Also, I'd love to hear from older moms.

Answer 1

I don't know anyone who has 2 children that wish they only had 1. I have 3 and it is so hard to remember what life was like without them. And to be honest I don't want to remember. I love my kids more than life itself and I wouldn't trade any of them for all the money in the world.  

Answer 2

i have 1 right now  he is 5 and his name is Ashton Drake and i am having triplets on September 3, but that is the first day of my son's kindergarten! Thank goodness for my neighbors! Their little boys and girls love to play with my son so they will pick him up from school and take him there. Anyway, my life is going to change having Victoria Blair, Tiffany Caire, and Sean-Jackson Ollie! Having children is a joy! So you should have another.

Answer 3

I'd like to hear what people have to say about this as well, I'm in the same boat but our son is 2 and we are stuck in the it's "now or never" decision...

The one thing that I feel for the most is my son, he always wants someone to play with! and he always wants me or daddy to go down the slide, race cars, and so on...lol we are a little old to playing all the time! (of course we do play with him) especially when I have dishes to do, laundry...

Answer 4

some state health agencies have insurance for pregnant women and infants, then after the birth you could use your own...look into it. i have a 6 month old and a 5 yr old..and i sleep fine at night...so does my husband and the boys

Answer 5

I have 3.  I could not imagine having just 1 - I NEVER wanted to have just 1.  I didn't want him/her to be an only child.  Kids should have siblings to grow up with and to make memories with.

Going from 1 to 2 is a big switch.  But if your first is already 3, he'll probably be 4 or 5 by the time another one comes along.  That's not too bad!  He'll be out of diapers and by then, you'll be longing for a little baby to hold again.  Yes, the sleepless nights suck when you're in them.  But looking back, I almost kind of miss them.  I cherished those late nights/ early mornings when it was just the baby and me.  

My first two are 2 years 9 months apart.  My second and third are 4 1/2 years apart.  It works for us.  Going from 2 to 3 is just a little bit more chaotic b/c you're outnumbered.  But its' true what they say - after you have 3, you could seriously have like 10.  Wouldn't trade it for anything.  I love all 3 of them so much!  It makes me wonder what I did with all my free time before kids!!!