This decision will change my life...i need help! Do i move with my mom or my grandparents/dad?

Question

I lived with my mom up until I was 13 in Hemet and i moved away from her because she was unfit and moved to LA with my grandparents and at the time my dad was a drug addict. So I was alone until I was 14 then i moved back with my mom in hopes she CHANGED but sadly she didn't. I'm on summer vacation and visiting my grandparents. My dad is now living with my grandparents temporarily. I end up falling in love while in LA with a boy who doesn't live far from my grandparents. Should I stay in La? or go back to Hemet? I told everyone that I was going back but I secretly want to stay. If i go back to my mom I know what's going to happen but she needs me, more than I need her. You see, its never been about me. When I lived with my grandparents they ALWAYS took great care of me and never hit me or shouted at me. My mom is a drunk...but she needs help. I'm only 15. Sometimes I feel like the parent. Should I be selfish or selfless? what do i Do!?

Answer 1

If your grandparents take care of you and are good to you then you should stay with them. It's not selfish to want to be in a good and stable home. Your mom is a adult and she will get the help she needs when she is ready and when she truly wants it. Good luck to you.

Answer 2

Stay in LA. If you are able to build up well your personality, education and future, in few years you will be able to be much more helpful for your mother and avoid the risk to destroy your future without making her better.

Your main duty is towards yourself : you need to become a positive, happy and stable person first. Stay there

Answer 3

You're the child, you have a right to want to live in a safe and sober environment!  Your mom is the selfish one!  You stay where you feel "at home".  If your grandparents want you, enjoy the time with them and let your mom take care of herself.  She is the one making the choice to drink, she'll have to hit bottom before she changes. Don't go there, too. It would be easier for her, to have you to take care of her.  That's messed up.  I hope your dad is clean and is finding a new life too.  Good luck and be happy!  

Answer 4

Is your mom really an unfit mother or is that an excuse to live in LA by that guy? Be honest with yourself now. If there is a chance that you can live with your mom and visit your grand parents often, would you to keep family ties?