This dude starts text convos but suddenly stops in the middle. Whats up with that?

Question

So there's this guy in my college politics club- everyone who knows him says he never answers his cell or replies to voice mails.

But he DOES text back.

Then when you get to discussing an upcoming event, etc... he just falls off the map, stops replying, goes mute.

He told me in person that he is interested in dating me, but he's so hard to communicate with and he does this with everyone.

So what do you think his deal is?

I'm going to confront him about this behavior b/c it's so annoying. I'd like to hear what you think is going on before I do! Maybe one of you will help me see things from a different perspective.

Answer 1

He told you in person that he is interested in dating you and yet he has done nothing about it and makes communication difficult! This is a guy I would walk away from. You could face years of problems if you got committed to him in any way.

Confrontation is not something I would recommend. Walk away, show inner strength within yourself and wait for him to try to come into your space. He will do - if he is serious. He won't if he just enjoys playing games with people. Good luck & best wishes. UK

Answer 2

If his actions inconviniences people in the club, then definately confront him. He needs to realize that people's time is precious and if he is supposed to do something he better communicate!!! Especially if he holds a position in the club.

As for dating him if he can't give you the time of the day inspite of expressing his interest I wouldn't date him. Believe you me even if you do talk to him he might make the effort the first few days and then revert back to his own habits.

Instead of "attacking" him about his behaviour, explain to him how it makes you and his fellow club members feel. Teel him you feel that he does not respect your time and that you cannot depend on him to do what he says/is supposed to do. He needs to let people know whats going on and if he can't see a project to the end then he needs not volunteer.

Answer 3

I would say this person has a fear of commitment. He seems to dodge anything that people would need to rely on him. I'm guessing he doesn't want others to have high expectations of him, and then one day he doesn't meet those expectations.

Or maybe I'm reading too much into him, and he's just lazy.