This girl thinks I'm someone I'm not?

Question

How do I stay on the level with this girl? I really like her, but she's goody goody and not exactly the same lol. I definitely drink and go to parties and stuff, which i don't think that she would like. I've gone on a few dates with her, and yeah I've definitely not entirely been myself. I watch my language around her, I don't smoke around her (btw i only smoke cigarettes, no weed. cant stand it.) In fact, i'm not entirely sure that she knows I smoke at all. But we have the same humor, we talk the same way, and she's generally just like me, with the exception of partying and stuff. Ive hinted at being a "bad boy," but i dont know how she feels about that sort of stuff. I definitely like her, so is there any way that i can keep her in my life?

Answer 1

Well you need to risk it and be honest with her. Because if you continue to hide the truth and she finds out, then she'll definitely not want anything more to do with you.

At least if you tell her she might respect your honesty and might still be friends, even if she doesn't want to date anymore. Maybe then you could clean up your act and win her back.

Answer 2

She will certainly not throw you over when you explain her what you mean by saying you are a "bad boy". Smoking and going to parties don't make you a bad or unpleasant person. If she is mature enough (the most possible is that she is), she will accept your differences and keep dating you.

But, please, tell her soon. If much time passes and she hasn't known the real you, when you reveal your secret, she may get disappointed (because you hadn't been honest).

Answer 3

Are you willing to change for her ? Do you care for her that much ? Other wise you are leading a double life and some how some way she just might find out about it.So it might be best if you had a heart to heart talk with her and tell her how you feel and about your Bad Boy ways.That is the kind thing to do. And ..maybe she has a thing or two to tell you ! Best of luck to you.

Answer 4

maybe she sees the good things about you the parttying and smoking is something you do not what you are because you can quit partying and smoking if you choose