This guy and I get along so well...?

Question

So I've been talking with this guy for some time (we've been having very witty convo exchange for about 3-4 months now)...it began on the internet, and I am FOR SURE that he is real...not a pedophile.

About a week after we exchanged phone numbers, he wasn't on for a while for another week, then on the same day I was about to call him, he called me out of the blue.

We are a lot alike, and I have a riot talking to him--he is hilarious.

After the first time he called, he would call the next day, then the day after, but then he didn't call for a couple of days, so I did.

He said that he forgets--then I told him not to feel bad, or obligated.

It has been another week since he has called...or been on-line.

I used to think that he liked me....but now I am not so sure.

Here's the catch though--we like 4-5 hours away from each other.

And I'm two years younger than him. (16-18)

So why hasn't he called me back in a week?

Thanks!

Answer 1

I have a similar situation with a guy I met online in early May.  We live 1500 miles apart, but he always calls and we text constantly.  We've both visited each other.

I hate to say it, but odds are...he's not that into it.  It's difficult to maintain feelings for someone when the foundation of your relationship is online.  You don't have friends in common and you don't know the same people -- you don't even live in the same town or know the same places.  His life is almost compltely separate from yours.

My point is, he is probably out living his life -- his life apart from you.  I don't say this to hurt you or be mean; I'm just trying to tell it like it is.  If he's forgetting to call you, it means he's not thinking about you.  It means you're not on his mind.  And if he really likes you, you should be on his mind.  Maybe I'm wrong.  Good luck either way.

Answer 2

Guys can be weird - even the nice ones can have hangups

There could be several reasons:

1. He probably doesn't want to seem too committed. ...Based on the fact that you have a chemistry when you speak, he's probably scared too.

2. Maybe he has a busy schedule outside of the time you spend with each other online and even though he may genuinely like you, he just doesn't have the time to spend in deep convo.

3. He might really like you and is afraid of commmitment (like many 18 y-olds)

4. He may just be putting up a front  - many persons have an alter ego when they get online..

Most relationships require lots of work and loads of patience - those developed online require even more. My advice is for you to take it slow - all that advice about not revealing too much personal information is truly sound advice - if you were meant to be friends, then it will happen. Don't put all your eggs in one basket - have fun, lots of fun - cherish the experience of being able to socialize on the internet, don't go overboard and don't forget that the psychos also come across as nice at first too..

Take it slow, play it safe and see where it leads.. if he is truly interested - you will not only know but you will become convonced of it! :)