This guy at work wont leave me alone. i need mature people to give me advice please!?

Question

this new guy started about a week or so ago and i didnt really notice him until yesterday when he waved a recipet in my face. i didnt know who he was. i noticed him staring at me every now and then and he would talk to me. a couple of my friends noticed and kept asking me what was wrong with him a jokingly called me racist becasue hes asian. he followed me when i went to get a drink from a neighbor store and asked me out...as a friend. i lied and said i was dating someone. he came back 3 times after he clocked out. the third time he came back he follow him outside but my mom was there to pick me up so he actually left. he called the store and had a girl give me his number, but im not interested. my frriend made me feel guilty because he came back 3 times for that and said he was cool guy. today started with him staring at me from a distance or coming right up to me and standing really close. i told my boss beforehand and he told him to do something whenever that happened. iv tried to be subtle with the not being interested. he stuck his hand down the back of my shirt and i wasnt happy with it. hes asked to give me a ride home. he asked me for my number twice in less than 10 minutes. my mom says hes being aggressive and i need to tell him to back off. couple of my friends at work say im just being paranoid and i need to give him a chance, my boss and another guy side with me. the guy i like goes both ways. im really confused. i do think hes being a little aggressive. im just worried hes going to try something else because hes already touched me unwantingly. his roommate who works there knows about his little crush and iv only known him day. what do you think?

Answer 1

All out tell him to back the **** off. If he's already touching you with only knowing him one day, who know he might try to rape you. If that doesn't work tell your boss that he's touching you that's sexual harassment and it is very serious. Also tell your friends to get off your back to give him a chance i bet they wouldn't give him a chance. also get in his face when he gets too close. tell him you don't like him being that close to you. also just avoid him. but if you really want him to lay off of you you might have tell him a serious lie or at least let him overhears one of your serious lies. Tell him your already having s*x or something he will be so dead from that that he will probably move on. Just stick it to him. Hope this helped, this is what got me to stop liking this girl. She asked me if having s*x hurt i said no and then she said that why did it hurt her (Tear). Hope that helped "personal Experience" :D

Answer 2

honestly, what he's doing is wrong. he is sexually harassing you at work = ILLEGAL. tell him to stop harassing you (ie staring continually, talking continually, physically touching) or you will report him to police. if that doesn't make it stop, report him to the police / boss, etc.  

Answer 3

Notify your supervisor immediately! Now!!!

Answer 4

He is being too aggressive with you. You need to tell a supervisor or something. What he is doing is illegal and you are in potentially serious danger. Trust me please, I speak from experience, it's scary but you really do have to tell someone. Creeps like him need to be taken off the streets. If people don't believe you then bring them proof and find someone who does believe you. I beg you... don't wait until something serious actually DOES happen.

Answer 5

I think you need to be very blunt with him and tell him that you are not interested in him and you want him to back off. Every time he makes you uncomfortable at work you should let your boss know. If it continues to be a problem, they should fire him. If he tries to play the "we can be friends" bit, let him know his actions aren't in his favor at this time and if he doesn't quit his inappropriate behavior towards you, there will never be a friendship or a romantic relationship. Being subtle with someone that doesn't take a hint is a waste of time. You've given him enough chances, it's time to get tough.

PS. Despite what your friends think he is making you uncomfortable and that is uncalled for, and unprofessional. Keep your mom involved just in case she needs to step in to correct the situation for you.

Answer 6

your boss needs to be told to do something or you will be bringing charges of harrassement against the guy --- keep a diary of what he does and be very obvious about it ---- you have told the guy to back off and he has not --- his behaviour is totally inappropriate for work and management is responsible for warning him off if he does not listen to you --- this is really a serious situation --- you dont know what the guy will do --- best wishes

Answer 7

Whoa. That is really bad news. Especially as it is where you work. You did the right thing telling your boss and your mother.

I think as far as being polite - you have tried subtlety and it isn't enough. You are going to have to be firm with him. Just make sure no one else is within earshot...so he isn't embarrassed. But just tell him you really aren't interested and to please give you some space. In my experience, he might even use this to have more conversations with you...ie: why won't you give me a chance, what is wrong with blah blah blah. Tell him firmly look, I have told you already and if you don't give it a rest, I am heading straight to my boss / calling my boss over here.

It is up to you to be firm. I don't think you are paranoid in the slightest. I have had experiences like yours. Is it at all possible to speak to his boss? Or have your boss tell his boss to have a word to him? You should not have to put up with it in the workplace.

Also never let him have a chance to be alone with you. Better safe than sorry. I can't tell you how many people wish they had trusted their instincts. Don't want to freak you out but take it seriously.

Answer 8

That's sexual harassment. If you don't want to tell your boss about it, do yourself a favor and put that pervert in his place. Slap his hand off you, ignore him, yell at him, let him know you want him nowhere near you.  

Answer 9

That's scary! He is being way too aggressive. You need to tell him to leave you alone or he's going to have to take it up with the police. Be sure to keep your boss informed of everything that is going on and try your best not to be alone if you think the guy is around, just in case. I hope this situation clears up for you. Good luck!

Answer 10

i had the same problem with a co-worker. he started getting too close and was asking me out. it got the the point where i just turned into a total ***** towards him. it seemed to work. except when i do something that MAY be a little flirtacious (unintentionally) and he starts up again so i just turn into a ***** again. it's probably not the best thing but hey, it keeps him away so maybe you should try it.

Answer 11

tell me were he lives and ill go and beat him up and tell him to leave you alone no im jokin. it sounds like you need to smak him and tell him to leave you the h**l alone if he is touching you (inapropriatley)  

Answer 12

look him straight in the eye and with a firm tone tell him to stop! if he doesn't get it as a warning then it's time to report his behavior to your superior.it will be better if you can address to him your trouble with the present of your friend or superior.he will get it as a second warning.if he still persist of his antics it's time to call the authority.