This guy cheated on me and I can't even think straight enough to go to sleep...Please help!?

Question

So I've been away at college doing summer classes and this guy is a few years older than me. He told me dropped his phone in the toilet so it was broken, but I hadn't seen him in forever and there was no other way to contact him so my friend and I drove to his house because we were in the neighborhood one day (seeing a movie).

So his door is open and the light is on and when we walk up to the door, I see this girl sitting on the couch (with her hair all disheveled) and he comes rushing to the door quickly with his shirt off and whispering "You gotta go. You gotta go." Then I looked over and said "F*cking around?" and then he says, "I'll call you later, but you gotta go."

I know he won't call and I am SHAKING right now because that is the guy I lost my virginity to and he told me he wasn't doing anything while I was away and told me that he doesn't lie because that's not the kind of person he is. It pisses me off that he couldn't even cover up his dirty tracks by at least trying to say, "Oh that's company...I'll have to call you later," in a normal voice.

I haven't cried about it yet because I know he's not worth my tears, but I am so mad that I just woke up at 6:40 and I can't do anything but shake and it's killing me inside...please help! And I can't get back to sleep...

Answer 1

Get it out of your system, go to him and yell at him, go to a gym and beat up a punchbag, go for a run and don't stop till your feet are blistered. Anything like that to get it out of your system.

The last two being the better options, use it as an excuse to get fit, and feel good.

Answer 2

That sounds really bad.. He's obviously not worth it.. I assume u both are quite young.. and this guy pro paying around. You are worth more than that.. the phase you are going through of not being able to sleep and it hurts like h**l will soon pass.. Just do whatever u feel like doing to get through the day within reasons and let the feelings pass.. Have to accept u r hurting and just move on

do things u like and keep busy... Don't bother with him, cut him out of ur life if possible . There's plenty more fish in the sea...  

Answer 3

wow... usually on here i just see a bunch of young high school idiots.  but you are obviously a very decent person and this is the VERY FIRST time i truly am sorry for someone on this site.  i mean... i am actually sooooo very sorry and sad for you i really want to just give you a big huge giant hug and tell you its gonna be alright... i would call you for comfort if u were my friend haha but that obviously isn't the case here.  u should totally email me if u need some1 to talk 2 about it or w/e.

Answer 4

The only thing I can say is "Time heals all wounds". You WILL get over this. Just keep yourself busy and have NOTHING to do with this lowlife of a man. Heartbreak is a terrible thing but I promise you will survive.

Answer 5

Are you sure he cheated? It could have been his sister and they were having a family argument. I'm just saying...

Then again, he was acting mighty shady. Sorry you lost your virginity to that kinda guy. I can't relate to that, being a guy and all, but lots of people p**s me off very often. My best method of dealing with it is to just consider it a lesson in life. Yeah, he was in the wrong for sure and it was uncalled for, but scums like that are simply all over the place. Now that you're aware of them you can better protect yourself.

God I hate cheaters. They always get some innocent people involved. Can you imagine how spoiled a childhood he had for him to grow into such an inconsiderate prick who doesn't care about other's feelings?

He made you suffer enough, there's no reason you should suffer more by thinking about it. It's going to take some time, but brush this chip off your shoulder and move on. And besides, that kind of behavior will get back at him in the end. He'll eventually cross a woman who's not as self-controlled as you ;)

Answer 6

If he kept telling you that you gotta go, then this means that the girl on the couch was his gf and that you were the intruder. He has moved on and so should you. We all know that most of us never end up with the one that we lost of virginity to, so forget about it. I know it will be hard at first because you wanted him to be the only one. But that will never happen unless you want a lying, cheater for a bf.

Answer 7

...man... what a pig, hes so dirty he didnt even cover it up. either way hes a dirty pig lol. just get over it , yeah it would make me so mad that i cant see straight either just at the fact of what he did. he couldnt even make an excuse its like him saying " well what can i say "

im sorry to hear that happend to u but there isnt a thing you can do about it unless beating his *** down like the dog he is would solve your problems, it usually doesnt it just makes us feel  better....ive been there done that and got the t shirt. and your virginity? im sorry, you dont get it back but you can find some one who will love and respect you either way, and people find people who arent virgins either and just because the werent each others first , better believe they were going to be eachothers last. uggh god im so mad for you just looking back. i dont know what to tell you . sorry, but i hope you feel better.

edit** i dont think it was a family arguement, you did accuse him of   " f*ing around right?" if he wasnt messing around then he would have dont pletny of explaining and making sure that it wasnt what you thought. he didnt though, he just thought he would never get caught and couldnt find an excuse to come up with how lame is that?? god the best cheaters have alibies before they do it , what a pendejo!!

if he wasnt cheating he would make sure you know that, but he didnt do a good job.

Answer 8

I'm sooo sorry.  There's no immediate way to get over a jerk, but you will.  For one thing, you'll be so mad at him.  The best revenge is feeling and looking good, and finding another guy.  I hope you sleep better tomorrow night.

Answer 9

Unfortunately, time is about the only healer of this kind of wound, but try to remember, what he did didn't really have anything to do with you. I mean, it certainly hurt you but it's a reflection on what kind of person he is, not a failing on your part. Hope you feel better soon

Answer 10

Cheaters suck- but at least you found out sooner rather than later right? The guy I lost my virginity to, I found out 2 years after we broke up he had cheated on me.  I had no clue and wasted time on a guy who had cheated on me!... Some guys just really suck.  I say have some girl time and forget about guys, until you are over your anger, then have fun.

But what ever you do- DON'T GO BACK TO HIM