This has gone far enough with my children they are out of control, and I don't even know how to stop it! HELP!

Question

ashbein27 I wish what you said was true, unfortanantly it isn't

Answer 1

Ok first thing like all the other posters have stated u should have been awake....If the kids are awake im awake..

Second thing..One minute u said ur daughter couldnt get up the stairs the u said she got into his room and scribbled on his walls..So can she use the stairs or not??

Answer 2

I can see how you are having problems...it's kind of hard to discipline and redirect your children if you aren't even awake. Try that, for starters...

Answer 3

if you don't want to discipline your children then you just need to get use to this.

My Dad would spank me and i don't hate him i thank him that i didn't grow up to be a spoiled little brat.

i heard a bible verse that went something like 'a parent that loves their child disciplines their child'

it'll be hard at first but you need to be a strong parent and don't use there dad as an excuse for them to misbehave!  

Answer 4

It sound like all this happened in one hour and then you say you have tried all sorts of punishments but what they need is for you to be awake and not sleep when they are awake. buy a good book on parenting and get some therapy

Answer 5

First question, why were you sleeping?  If my children are awake, I am awake.  I know you are looking for help, so I am not judging, just trying to find out more info.

Okay, giving someone a thumbs down when they are just asking for more info is just rude.  First of all, your question made it sound like this all happened within a span of an hour, so can you blame someone for asking about why you were sleeping?  Second, I know that a single parent might be tired and a little hard to wake up, but if my children even breath funny, I wake up.  If you are sincere in wanting help, then don't be so harsh.  

Now for the help part.

Pix doesn't need more space.  It sounds like he is bored and not being stimulated enough.  Is he getting ready for kindergarten, or going into the first grade?  

A three year old should not get upset about being able to play in the attic.  If anything Sam seems to need her brother to occupy her time.  She does not know how to play by herself, and will get a good dose of alone time when Pix goes to school.  

Giving her a castle just for getting mad, is showing her that getting mad and throwing a tantrum will get her what she wants.  Don't be surprised if the tantrums get worse!

The play house scenerio reaffirms to me that they want to play together.

The hair cut and fingernail polish took a while to do, so again, was this at midnight when they were supposed to be sleeping, or can to agree for once that maybe they were not being completely supervised?

What is a three and five year old doing with an allowance?  They are not old enough to understand the concept of an allowance, so how can they possible understand what it means to have it taken away.

For everyone that read this that did not ask the question, sorry it is so long, and hopefully my spelling is not too terrible.

Answer 6

s***w them they cant say they never dosed off and their kids got in to some thing and if they haven't then i must be a bad parent too!!!!!!!dont listen to them about being asleep.They are kids brother and sister at that they are gonna do rotten stuff to each other.i have three girls 10,8,and4months and a 6 year old son so i hve the same prob.just today the 6 year old riped the 10 year olds poster so she took the batterys out of his gameboy.I found that if you give them space by having them go play with differnt friends for awhile that some times helps Have Fun hope you can find something that works for you.sorry but I dont know how these other people take care of their kids cuz even me and my sister used to do mean things to each other.not out of stress just because it was fun. thats what kids do If you got to spank them so they know that some things they cant do go for it dont beat them but just let them know who is boss.I am telling you what everyone must have the most prefect littel angels and we must have little devils!!!!!!!!!

Answer 7

I have four kids ages four and under.  Why are you on here making up stories like this?  Get a life.  Children that young, ESP the 3 year old don't hold grudges and plan revenge.  Ridiculous.

Answer 8

you should have been watching your children not sleeping. How can a 3 yr old even paint a 5 yr old boys finger nails?

try watching your kids and maybe this wouldnt happen

Answer 9

well first a 5 year old having his own space? umm no 5 is way to young to be letting him get his way and allowances oh boy neways well you absolutely need to separate the 2 of them for sure you really should sit the 2 of them down together and tell them that thy are brother and sister and not many families are able to have nice things like they have so they should be nice to each other and learn to share or you will take all of their toys away and anything they really love and give them to kids who will share their toys with their brothers and sisters... i don't know try something like that

Answer 10

I find it very hard to accept that your 5 year old & 3 year old are capable of plotting vendictive behavior.

It sounds like your children are acting out in stress... probably from the threatening father and running away, which I'm assuming means a new environment.  That's tough for you, I'm sure.  Imagine being 5 or 3!!!  

You are obviously not a bad mom.  A bad mom would've stayed around a man like that.

Here's some tried (yes, I was there once) and proven techniques:

Start comforting, regular routines with your children such as nightly books/stories.

Introduce security items.  Even at 5 my son loved a blanked I gave him and called "Mommy's special blanket."  Same went for a stuffed animal.  I know a mom who used her silky (not sleazy) nightgowns for her kids.

Try to understand where your kids are coming from:  "Pix, I know you're upset.  It's OK to be mad.  It's not okay to ruin Samantha's toys.  Next time you're upset, why don't you try taking some quiet time for yourself & coloring?"  

You're going to need to be very patient for the next year.  You're also going to need to be very consistant.  Children thrive with consitency.

Good luck & good job.