This has to be one of the worst social problems...

Question

im 16 yrs nd i have very few friends guys. thing is im nice nd social but very few people accept me in their lives. i know loads of people but very few of them r friends of mine. i never rejected anyone except 4 the really bad people.whats the problem?

Answer 1

i have the same problem sometimes...

dont worry about it..

if they dont want to be your friend there not worthit...

your fine on your own..

where do u live?

im 16 too....x

Answer 2

I guess you could say I  have had the same problem and probably still do, to an extent.  I Never really hung out with too many people, just a couple people, that  probably today I would not be hanging out with if I knew then, what I know now. Needless to say I went through life meeting many, many people.  Here where I live and in other places  that I have lived. I feel my impact  on all the people I have gotten to know will leave a mark in their lives, that only I could have given them.  Never put precedence on what you don't have, always look at what you have given to others. Your need for friends will never stop growing , but keep this as a reminder from this friend,  that the good ones always hang around  when things get tough for you and when you need there help.

Answer 3

awkward

Answer 4

I found being 16 horrendous as well.

I am well older than you are - I look back now and think that there was nothing wrong with me at all. I just hadn't found my niche in life.

I am sure you will find your niche in life eventually - in the meantime please don't keep beating yourself up about it.

Best Wishes. UK

Answer 5

I don't see the problem it looks like you have friends. If the people are rejecting you out of their lives directly to you than yea you should try to fix that but if their not doing that directly to you than it seems like you have a couple of good close friends.  

Answer 6

It's important for you to communicate with people in different circles, but you don't have to make these people your bff.... Create your own identity and love yourself.... Don't get caught up in the high school hype anyway, you won't see these people after you graduate.... PICK AND CHOOSE YOUR OWN FRIENDS... don't let them choose you... Hope this helps;-)

Answer 7

It's not a social problem, maybe you're just not everyones type of person : )  you are your own person ! it's okay this problem will fade as you Get older.  having a couple close friends is a lot better than have a lot of friend friends

Answer 8

i don't see any problem with you; in fact, you're as normal as any 16 years old can be..... you're just going through a phase.

Answer 9

Perhaps you just don't have enough in common with these people. You can't "force" a friendship. I think you need to just keep living your life and having fun.

On the other hand, you should probably make sure that you're not depending too much on other people to take the initiative in forming bonds. If you do want to hang out with someone, you should ask them to hang out, instead of waiting for them to ask you. You could discover that they thought you were cool as well, but were also too apprehensive to ask you anything.

Answer 10

Relax, be yourself. I know this sounds pretty cliche, but trust me, it works. Find people who share your views and interests. Don't be apprehensive or concerned what others may think about you.You have to live your life,not them. No matter what you do or say, there is always someone that won't cut you any slack. Move on and find people who will accept you for being you.