This is a letter to someone who treated me like **** in the past..do you think i should give it to him?

Question

do you think im able to forget it so soon?...it took me a long time to understand the fact that you have killed a part of my soul by violating my body...im sure you must be remembering and deriving perverted pleasures thinking your encounter with me.but do you also know that my mind has become irreparably ill....but do you remember what amount of child like innocence i had enjoyed prior to talking to you...you destroyed my innocence...but i give it to you that i have not been the perfectly sane, otherwise i would not have tried to please you with my body..do you remember my resistance to your touches, do you remember my reluctance to participate in your perversion?..do you remember how you did it all in an 'instant' manner, how you treated a 15 year old tender girl like your s*x slave..you have made me stained, tainted...you killed a part of my core...not a day passes by without the horrifying scenes of what had been done to my body when i was a child.i pray to god, daily for forgiveness, i pray to god to heal me, to make me forget the scars you have caused on me..do you know, after you, i promised myself that i will NEVER fall in love again, and i have kept i till a year or so back...im hopelessly in love with someone, and i am scared...im ashamed of sharing my body, soul and mind in the sacred act of love anymore..because they are all tainted...tainted by you...i feel worthless and undeserving of a tender look, a tender touch, a tender kind of love

Answer 1

Seven years have passed and it would serve no purpose to send a letter like this to him now.  If he was that cruel and insensitive to you when you were only 15, he probably isn't any more sensitive now than he was then.  All you'd be doing is letting him know he still has control over your emotions.

It was good that you wrote it.  Writing how you feel can be very healing.  Forgive him for what he did to you.  There is freedom in forgiveness.  It doesn't mean you will ever forget what happen, but it will help enable you to move on.

Answer 2

No, I experienced a very similar situation and spent years and years writing to the evil man I suffered at the hands of. I never sent the letters something always stopped me. Now 10 years on I know what that something was - people as evil as this will thrive of attention good or bad. He will see the fact that you are struggling to love again because of him as an achivement rather than something he should be ashamed of. It will show him he still has some control. Men like this thrive from control.

Be strong, realise that you are so much better than this individual and love again and I bet that will hurt him so much more than any letter ever could. As time goes on you will come to realise this evil individual is nothing like you and although them emotional words would play with your feelings, he is not capable of feeling that kind of hurt.

Good luck and please if you take nothing else from my comments remember you are worth love so dont turn it away because of this A***ole x

Answer 3

I think that its not going to mean anything to a person that is that low and that the act of writing it is what is healing for you. He has taken up enough of your thoughts and emotions-hes still holding you captive and this will not help. You need to decide to throw out the trash he forced on you and go find that person who loves you. Everyone has shadows in their past-some not so bad as yours, but everyone. Don't let it wreck more of your life. You deserve better. Throw out the letter and throw out his control,because he still is controlling you. Take charge of yourself. Be made as h**l and not take it anymore. Good Luck!

Answer 4

It would probably rock his boat if you gave it to him, but by the sounds of it, it would rock his boat in a good way if he sounds as sick as you portray.

Yeah I totally agree, p**s on it, do everything discgusting to the letter, burn it and let it go.

Try to move on and enjoy your present relationship. Because not all men are going to be the same as the one you wrote the letter to.

Dont let a man envelope your self esteem, otherwise your relationship you are in now will suffer, trust me! You need to let yourself go and be happy, dont wallow in this.

Go get your nails done, a haircut, new clothes, anything to give you confidence, thats what I do when I am feeling down about myself. Step your confidence up with your new partner, and you will find he will respond in a positive way.

You'll get through it, as soon as you let go of it. Get rid of your anger towards that man, and then you will be free to enjoy your new relationship to the fullest extent.

Good Luck

Answer 5

If it will help you forget the past, pleeeease do so. The nightmarish experience of past is not going to help you in your present & in your future. I do understand it is easier to say than to go through the torture that you have undergone.

My dear friend, be bold & please leave your past behind & look at this wonderful person with whom you are in love with. Not all men are like the one you mentioned. Do not carry the guilt of past & punish yourself. You get only one life. Instead of looking at the bad past, look at the bright today & bright tomorrow that will be full of love & affection.

I pray that you get all the possible love that you have missed in these years.

Answer 6

15 year old girl............ha ha  

Answer 7

dont u think its tooooo dramatic and poetic, but as for u, i only hav 1 thing to say

boyz are like that, u were not old enuf to understand his fake his love for u ..giv it to him, though...but pls cancel out the poetic parts...if he really is the guy who treated u badly,he'll just throw it away

Answer 8

Hi

i undrstand hw u feel, Do Give him d letter so tat he knows u still rem him n tat time...

BUT

nevr say Never to LOVE!

make frens, stay busy, love yorself n u may find a nice guy soon!!

Tc

mail me at [e-mail] if u wanna say or ask anything,

Tc

Answer 9

NO. you should not do it. You should understand tat u will only cause more harm to yourself than to him.

As per wat i read in your letter i can understand tat he abused you physically and the scares r not healing.

If it helps you should take the help of senior members of your family and can lodge a police complaint so tat the guy can be put behind bars for having sexual relations with an underaged girl.

And as for you u should go in for counselling i m sure that should help.

Dont drag your past along it will be a burden, shed it and continue ahead.

Answer 10

Yea I think you should give it to him,just get someone to help with misspelled words first. And I'm glad you gave your life to God after what happened to you. You have a lot of courage,a lot more than a lot of people .God is going to see you through this just hang in there. Good luck and God Bless You.

Answer 11

Let it go...

Answer 12

No, that´s not the way he would feel miserable, I even think he would feel great for to be such a “big man”… Guys like that do not have any conscience, they think as soon as a girl has a body like a woman she is good for s*x as well and they think if you say “no” it still means “yes”,

He probably thinks that he did nothing wrong at all and that it was your own fault somehow and he is even sure that you liked it… he is an egoist, a psychopath, a criminal.

With this letter he would even feel more important ever.

You are suffering since 5 years from the consequences and I would honestly say that it is time to make HIM suffer.

And the only way to do so efficiently is following:

1. His family should know who / what is exactly their son / brother / nephew / grandson… they will not even like him to be around in a funeral…

2. His friends should also get to know what he did… let´s see how many friends he will have left afterwards… after all everybody will be afraid what this monster could probably do to their sisters, girl friends, wives…

3. He is at university? I suggest that the director and all the teachers would be very pleased to get to know about his past… they will even throw him from their institution… as there are also many females who study and obviously they are in danger.

4. He has a job? So make sure that he looses his job… nobody wants to have an employee who is a violator.

5. Does he have a girl friend, finance??? Even already married? Destroy his marriage, his compromise… he does not have any right to be happy and live an apparently normal life… inform as well the in-laws / to be in-laws

6. And last but not least… go to court and report what he has done… but this has to be the last step.

7. First kill him slowly… I don´t mean to take his life away, but something much more important… make him suffer for the rest of his life… He will lost everything you have lost… he will not be happy again in life, everybody will spit on him, his own family will hate him, he will never get somebody who would want to stay with him… make him loose his job… so he will be without income and don´t worry the gossip will do the rest… finally he will have to clean water closets…

8. He deserves all this… and so much more. Forget about these people who think you have to forget and forgive… HOW shall somebody forget and forgive who has been violated and mistreated that way?

9. Revenge is something evil, but something which makes us enjoy. Revenge is a dish, which has to be served cold… with a cold mind and with no regrets and no compassion.

10. And last but not least you have to start with psychotherapy, because you CAN go out of this and live a normal and happy life.

All the best, don´t give up and don´t let him escape. He has to suffer in his own body and mind what he has done to you. He did not think a moment that he would destroy your life and future… Now it is your turn to destroy HIM.

Answer 13

Dont

Answer 14

No point

Answer 15

absolutely not.  all you are doing is giving him visual stimulation.

burn it, bury it or flush it down the toilet after youve taken a dump on it and dont give the guy any pleasure from your obvious pain.