This is a little embarrassing. i think i'm scared of having an o****m, help? ?

Question

I have been dating my boyfriend for over a year. he is not my first boyfriend, but the only one who i have ever felt close enough to talk about it with. I have never had an o****m. that is not to say that my boyfriend is not good; he is, he makes me feel amazing. but every time he "goes down" and it gets really intense for me i always tell him to stop. its kind of like when he hits a certain spot, i can't take it anymore. its SOOO intense. its almost like he is tickling the most incredibly sensitive spot ever. i guess it feels good, but a bad good and i dont enjoy it. he keeps telling me that that means I'm really close, but i don't know. when ever he hits that spot i cant control myself; my body almost spasms and i don't like it. i don't like not being in control of my body. and i don;t want to know what will happen when i reach the brink. i guess I'm curious about what it feels like, but im scared to find out, i think something is wrong with me. does anyone else feel like this?

Answer 1

ok tell your bf that tie your hand to your bed and put something in your mouth and tell him that you one a good o****m ever  ,tell him that hit the gspot so well and believe me you are gonna be in heaven .gspot is inside maybe is where your bf touch so much that you like

Answer 2

you scaredy cat scaredy cat you go to balarat

Answer 3

Just let it happen.

Obviously it wont be bad if mice and men alike would rather o****m than eat at times.

Answer 4

You have an overly sensitive clitoris, which would explain why it "tickles". The best thing for you to do is to play with it with a cloth or something over it, or to simply apply pressure to it. Let yourself o****m, too, its worth it!

Answer 5

There's nothing wrong you, please don't feel that way.  The clitoris is an ultrasensitive part of a woman's body.  Stimulating the clitoris is what causes most orgasms.  However, too much stimulation can be unpleasant and cause a woman to recoil from the touching.  It seems to me that he may be giving you too much stimulation, and that's why it is so unpleasant.  Intimacy should never be unpleasant; you and your boyfriend will need to work together to find ways of pleasing each other that are pleasurable for both of you.  

I'm going to offer you a couple of suggestions.  My first suggestion is that you spend some time alone getting to know your own body better.  You can discover what is enjoyable to you all by yourself.  My second suggestion is that you do something to minimize the physical contact between your clitoris and your boyfriend, to reduce the stimulation.  My best friend always keeps her clothes on when her husband is pleasuring her, because the cloth reduce the overstimulation that is unpleasant for her by stopping the skin-to-skin contact, but still allows her to feel the touching; it's the only way she orgasms.  This may be something to consider.  

Oh, and stop listening to your boyfriend about orgasms.  It is very, very clear that he doesn't know that much about women's bodies.

Answer 6

practice moaning so even if you dont like it atleast t makes him happy. haha

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tell him to touch your cliterise it feels amazing

Answer 7

I know the feeling you're talking about, thats NOT close to o****m, thats just irritating...

I would give yourself your first o****m by clitoral stimulation. That way you know what its like, alone & comfortable with yourself.

I SWEAR, you'll know when its the real thing because you wont want to stop.

EVER.

Answer 8

Well, you could give yourself an o****m in private and see what's different about that as opposed to your boyfriend causing one.  Maybe you are afraid of intimacy?  It sounds psychological to me, as you said you don't like not being in control of your body.  A control issue, perhaps?  Nothing bad will happen if you o****m; in fact, it will release all that pent up frustration.  You could always talk to a counselor about it, if necessary.

Answer 9

I dated a guy for 2 and a half years- lost my virginity to him- but he NEVER made me have an o****m. I was 14 when i lost my virginity, and he left me thinking to myself "why is everyone so obsessed with s*x? It's not THAT good...." And i continued to think that until I got together with my current boyfriend. He showed me what it really means to have GOOD s*x. Your details are a little vague but it sounds like he is trying to give you a clitoral o****m. Those are OK, but there are better ways. You just need to relax and trust him. It's not going to hurt. I can almost guarantee that. If you have not had traditional intercourse, i would consider it. Of coarse, after you consider your own morals and standards. (if you don't believe in pre-marital s*x than don't do it. obviously.) If you really love this guy, than you know he is not going to cause you physical harm. so just relax and see what happens. Have fun!

Answer 10

The same EXACT thing was happening to me.  Anytime I was getting close, I told him to stop because I was about to loose control.  I felt like my body was about to explode, spasms and all.  Then one day, after dating for nearly 2 years, I allowed him to continue.  It was the most amazing experience ever!  An o****m, especially when he is going down on you is a very special experience and the first time you will loose control.  (This is not a bad thing)  Make sure there is no one within ear shot because you will scream with joy.  The first time is the hardest because you don't know what is going to happen, but you will love it.  To make yourself feel better hang onto something with both hands, like a bedpost or pillow.  Be brave.  Think of it as an adventure... an adventure of pleasure.  And just remember, loosing control can be very enjoyable and a way of remaining in control.  Think about it, you are controling when you have an o****m by allowing it to happen.

Have fun and just remember all that you are missing out on if you don't let him continue.

As a side note:  If your boyfriend is willing to put your feeling and pleasure before his own, he's a keeper!

Answer 11

nope sorry

Answer 12

There's nothing to be afraid of. But it does feel amazing.. trust me. Just go with it once. If you don't like it after that first try (which I don't see why anyone wouldn't like it), then you can never do it again.

Answer 13

aw hunni! ok i no im a lot young for  like s*x but u hav just got to let urself go u wil feel soa mazing or so ive heard

Answer 14

wow we have the same problem...

but i dont know how to help you.

Answer 15

you better learn before he finds girls who are jealous