This is a marriage question,I re:edited it so it's different.?

Question

This is a strange question and I'm not married and I don't have kids but here it goes.

You are married and you have a baby.You m********e and you have a sexual thought about your child.You don't want your child sexually because that's just disgusting.It just popped in your mind.You're not going to bother your child sexually.This thought really scared you and you hated the thought.You didn't even want to have the thought.Is this a thought that the devil brings to you?Everyone has bad thoughts but as long as we don't yeild to them then we're not bad people,right?Would your husband divorce you for having the thought?

And is this how you know that you don't want to have s*x with your child?

You love your child just not sexually.

You don't want to hurt your child.

It's wrong.

You don't want a divorce from your husband.

You don't want to go to jail.

I'm just asking.I'm not married and I don't have kids but I just want to know.It's just a thought.I know you all are saying "This is sick and disgusting!".I agree but it's a thought not an action.There are some people who are strong enough to not act on the thought and stop thinking about it.Everyone who has answered this question has once in their life had bad thoughts but as long as we don't act on them,we have not sinned,right?So would a husband divorce the wife even though she didn't and diesn't intend on acting on the thought?

Nobody is understanding this question.If you are not going to act on the thought and hated the thought then therefore,you do not want to hurt the child.Why would your spouse divorce you over just having the thought when you have no intentions to hurt the child?Isn't this something that you can work out if you love each other?I also think that I might have OCD.I have a lot of symptoms of OCD such as doing things repititively,bad thoughts and images,being afriad of being contaminated,checking things over and over again,having really bad uncontrlollable bad thoughts about anything and everything,things I wouldn't even act on.I have more symptoms.I'm not saying this is me but what if you are so tortured by the thoughts that you are about to commit suicide because you think that the child will be better off without you.You do not want to hurt the child.It was just a thought that you don't intend to have again.You're not going to act on it either so why should a husband divorce his wife over that?Would you divorce your wife because of all of this?

You're not sexually attracted to your child.It was just a thought,not an action or an intended action.Everyone has bad thoughts at least once in their life!How can this be a cause for a divorce?!?!?Is this a cause for a divorce or something?

While you were masturbating,you also thought about your son masturbating when he gets older and that turned you on.I thought any sexual image can turn a person on.You didn't want it to turn you on.It was like a fantasy!You stopped masturbating because of all of this.You didn't want the thoughts anymore so you just quit it completely.You are not tortured by the thoughts but you are tortured by the thought that you had them.You try to block them out!You have no intention to touch the child.You know that it's wrong and think that people who do it are sick.Would a husband divorce his wife or get her help?Which would you do?

What if your mind is trying to trick you into thinkng that you do want to harm your child,you wouldn't do it,you love your child.Is that just your mind playing tricks on you?Will the husband still want a divorce from the wife?What would you do if you were the husband?

Answer 1

Sounds like OCD.  Get some help.

Answer 2

OCDPD is what is sounds as if you have. The personality disorder is a little different from OCD. Have you checked with your doctor on this behavior disorder? I think that they can prescribe mild tranquilizers and/or med's like those who have ADD take. First, calm down about your thought processess. Destress yourself as much as you can.

Relaxation, meditation, exercise, regular sleep, and a balanced diet are all important factors in maintaining this focus.

I would assume that if a husband knew that their mate had issues that needed doctors care, he would understand and help his mate through the everyday process that it takes for one to stay in control of thought processess. I would suggest, if one hasn't gone yet, to make an appointment with a doc, since they are the only ones that can help with the everyday issues that arises. That is the best way to help the mind, which is, understanding the mind.

Answer 3

Let me get this straight...

You are NOT married and have NO kids and you are asking this...?

Makes me wonder...

But - to answer this question...NO - I have NEVER thought of my kids (or anyone else's kids) like that.

(shudder)

Answer 4

I assume you're just asking this because you're curious. Well, I don't have kids either but I sure do know that this doesn't happen. Have you ever thought about your dad while you're masturbating? you'll say h**l NO well is the same concept. Those kind of thoughts don't come to your mind when you're thinking "sexually", they just don't! and if they do then you do want to have s*x with your child (in the back of your head) and you need psychological help. Hope this is never your case.

Answer 5

your thoughts do not define who you are, your actions do. People can choose to act on their thoughts or not. You can't control your thoughts, you can control your actions. This is normal and there's nothing wrong with "hating" a thought you have.