This is a marriage question.I edited it some.?

Question

This is a strange question and I'm not married and I don't have kids but here it goes.

You are married and you have a baby.You m********e and you have a sexual thought about your child.You don't want your child sexually because that's just disgusting.It just popped in your mind.You're not going to bother your child sexually.This thought really scared you and you hated the thought.You didn't even want to have the thought.Is this a thought that the devil brings to you?Everyone has bad thoughts but as long as we don't yeild to them then we're not bad people,right?Would your husband divorce you for having the thought?

And is this how you know that you don't want to have s*x with your child?

You love your child just not sexually.

You don't want to hurt your child.

It's wrong.

You don't want a divorce from your husband.

You don't want to go to jail.

I'm just asking.I'm not married and I don't have kids but I just want to know.It's just a thought.I know you all are saying "This is sick and disgusting!".I agree but it's a thought not an action.There are some people who are strong enough to not act on the thought and stop thinking about it.Everyone who has answered this question has once in their life had bad thoughts but as long as we don't act on them,we have not sinned,right?So would a husband divorce the wife even though she didn't and diesn't intend on acting on the thought?

Nobody is understanding this question.If you are not going to act on the thought and hated the thought then therefore,you do not want to hurt the child.Why would your spouse divorce you over just having the thought when you have no intentions to hurt the child?Isn't this something that you can work out if you love each other?I also think that I might have OCD.I have a lot of symptoms of OCD such as doing things repititively,bad thoughts and images,being afriad of being contaminated,checking things over and over again,having really bad uncontrlollable bad thoughts about anything and everything,things I wouldn't even act on.I have more symptoms.I'm not saying this is me but what if you are so tortured by the thoughts that you are about to commit suicide because you think that the child will be better off without you.You do not want to hurt the child.It was just a thought that you don't intend to have again.You're not going to act on it either so why should a husband divorce his wife over that?Would you divorce your wife because of all of this?

You're not sexually attracted to your child.It was just a thought,not an action or an intended action.Everyone has bad thoughts at least once in their life!How can this be a cause for a divorce?!?!?Is this a cause for a divorce or something?

While you were masturbating,you also thought about your son masturbating when he gets older and that turned you on.I thought any sexual image can turn a person on.You didn't want it to turn you on.It was like a fantasy!You stopped masturbating because of all of this.You didn't want the thoughts anymore so you just quit it completely.You are not tortured by the thoughts but you are tortured by the thought that you had them.You try to block them out!You have no intention to touch the child.You know that it's wrong and think that people who do it are sick.When you were really really young,you watched or ooked for children p**n but you were about 12 but you don't do it anymore because,let's face it,it's wrong and it should be illegal.Would a husband divorce his wife or get her help?Which would you do?

What if your mind is trying to trick you into thinkng that you do want to harm your child,you wouldn't do it,you love your child.Is that just your mind playing tricks on you?Will the husband still want a divorce from the wife?What would you do if you were the husband?

Answer 1

I highly recommend therapy in this situation.  There is quite a bit going on here and I don't think anyone without professional training will be able to offer you sound advice.  If you see Corina there, please tell her that I wish her well.

Answer 2

If I ever had sexual thoughts about one of my children, I would hope that my husband would leave and take the kids. That is what I would do if the situation were reversed. The bible says that an unclean thought is as bad as an unclean act, therefore the thought alone is a sin.

Answer 3

I would think that this person has past abuse issues and is in need of therapy. Some abuse survivors go through a form of PTSD that could cause intrusive thoughts and OCD. I would be less worried about a divorce and more worried about getting this person mentally stable and healthy.  

Answer 4

you need counseling.

Answer 5

I think you are definitely having some type of OCD, and I don't know what to call it by name, but even though I have never had thoughts such as yours, I have had thoughts I would never act on.  I think then that where this comes from is serious FEARS.  I think that some people have big time fears of certain bad things, things that they hope never to happen to them, and so in thinking about them, and almost fantasing about them, they think that it then won't happen.  Does that make sense?  I highly suggest getting yourself involved in a good fiction novel of some kind of pure story, and stay away from listening to any non-fiction daily news and horrible true stories, and just watch some good old funny shows and read good books etc.. to keep your mind off of such fears.  You aren't married, nor do you have kids, so don't worry about what hasn't happened yet regarding these fears.  I do think that if this continued, you should get some therapy as you may have some insecurities.  Try and focus on yourself and go get the book by Joel Osteen "Become a Better You"  This man is wise, and he will give you lots of positive strength.  You have two choices, either to live and make it good, or just you know, die.  So pick the first one.  

I wish you the best and don't pay attention to anyone who sends you stupid answers without supporting the fact that you need someone to talk to.

Answer 6

are you kidding me? who in the world is going to read all of this? If you are not married and have no kids then why are you asking this question???

Please go and get some help. From a psychologist.

Answer 7

Depends on how 'OFTEN' these thoughts are.  Everyone has random thoughts that just 'pop-up' in one's head, given whatever has influenced them to think it. I know i have some thoughts that make me wonder what the h**l is wrong with me, because i practically make myself gag.  But that's the point...you think about it RARELY, and it's probably just a matter of letting your mind wander way too far off the path.  

BUT...if you're doing the thoughts WILLINGLY, and ENJOYING the thoughts WILLINGLY? And more often than you should..then EEYAH.that's a big problem.

It's at that point you need to seek help, especially since it WILL affect your relationship with you significant other and your child.

But if it was like what i explained...then just get it out your head by thinking of better things..like..YOUR SIGNIFICANT other..make them do some freaky stuff or whatever..otherwise the severity of the case will make you have to take professional assistance.

Answer 8

I would kill the bit*h with my bare hands and dump her carcass into the deepest part of the ocean.

If this is you -- go to h**l.

Answer 9

I wouldn't divorce the spouse(wife only). I would get immediate help for the spouse and remove the child from the premises immediately. I believe its a sicking disorder that makes a person prey upon children and to think of you own son is more of a disorder. No matter if its tellin you its wrong. THOSE THOUGHTS SHOULD NOT BE IN YOUR HEAD. It get shut out automatically. If you can't something is wrong with you mentally