This is a marriage question.I re:edited it so it's different.?

Question

This is a strange question and I'm not married and I don't have kids but here it goes.

You are married and you have a baby.You m********e and you have a sexual thought about your child.You don't want your child sexually because that's just disgusting.It just popped in your mind.You're not going to bother your child sexually.This thought really scared you and you hated the thought.You didn't even want to have the thought.Is this a thought that the devil brings to you?Everyone has bad thoughts but as long as we don't yeild to them then we're not bad people,right?Would your husband divorce you for having the thought?

And is this how you know that you don't want to have s*x with your child?

You love your child just not sexually.

You don't want to hurt your child.

It's wrong.

You don't want a divorce from your husband.

You don't want to go to jail.

I'm just asking.I'm not married and I don't have kids but I just want to know.It's just a thought.I know you all are saying "This is sick and disgusting!".I agree but it's a thought not an action.There are some people who are strong enough to not act on the thought and stop thinking about it.Everyone who has answered this question has once in their life had bad thoughts but as long as we don't act on them,we have not sinned,right?So would a husband divorce the wife even though she didn't and diesn't intend on acting on the thought?

Nobody is understanding this question.If you are not going to act on the thought and hated the thought then therefore,you do not want to hurt the child.Why would your spouse divorce you over just having the thought when you have no intentions to hurt the child?Isn't this something that you can work out if you love each other?I also think that I might have OCD.I have a lot of symptoms of OCD such as doing things repititively,bad thoughts and images,being afriad of being contaminated,checking things over and over again,having really bad uncontrlollable bad thoughts about anything and everything,things I wouldn't even act on.I have more symptoms.I'm not saying this is me but what if you are so tortured by the thoughts that you are about to commit suicide because you think that the child will be better off without you.You do not want to hurt the child.It was just a thought that you don't intend to have again.You're not going to act on it either so why should a husband divorce his wife over that?Would you divorce your wife because of all of this?

You're not sexually attracted to your child.It was just a thought,not an action or an intended action.Everyone has bad thoughts at least once in their life!How can this be a cause for a divorce?!?!?Is this a cause for a divorce or something?

While you were masturbating,you also thought about your son masturbating when he gets older and that turned you on.I thought any sexual image can turn a person on.You didn't want it to turn you on.It was like a fantasy!You stopped masturbating because of all of this.You didn't want the thoughts anymore so you just quit it completely.You are not tortured by the thoughts but you are tortured by the thought that you had them.You try to block them out!You have no intention to touch the child.You know that it's wrong and think that people who do it are sick.Would a husband divorce his wife or get her help?Which would you do?

What if your mind is trying to trick you into thinkng that you do want to harm your child,you wouldn't do it,you love your child.Is that just your mind playing tricks on you?Will the husband still want a divorce from the wife?What would you do if you were the husband?

Answer 1

I never ...ever had a thought like that pop into my head. while having s*x, You need to talk to someone, I mean now...this second.

Answer 2

Y= You

M=Me

Y-This is a strange question and I'm not married and I don't have kids but here it goes

M-Yes it is very strange and if you are not involved, what in the world made you come up with such a scenario? You are very serious in all that you have said as you have spent a long time typing it, re-editing and so on. Read your question back to yourself and think, "what if I were reading this question and how do I feel it should be answered?" I think you are feeling very guilty as to having these thoughts. You have to admit to yourself you are the one having this problem, you gave yourself up when talking about OCD.

Y-Would your husband divorce you for having the thought?

M- How does your husband know of these thoughts? Is he seeing things or changes in you that cause him concern?

Y- While you were masturbating,you also thought about your son masturbating when he gets older and that turned you on.

M- Maybe it is the thought of your son that turns you on, so in turn you act on it.

Y- Is that just your mind playing tricks on you?

M- You sound as if you understand these thoughts are not normal, if your mind is playing tricks on you and these are not your normal thoughts, then I think you know that you should see someone to help you with this. The last thing you want to do is harm your child in any way. The very fact that you are asking for help in this makes sense in that you beleive this is not normal thinking.

Y-What if your mind is trying to trick you into thinkng that you do want to harm your child,you wouldn't do it

M- Doesn't this question tell you that something is not right?

Please ask someone that can help you to get the help you need. Do it before you do damage to yourself or others.

Answer 3

I am so sorry that you have been contaminated by religion.  Religion has taught so many people that their thoughts will lead to actions which will lead to sin which will lead to h**l.    

First, there is nothing wrong with masturbation, it is a natural act of all creatures.  

Your thoughts are your own.  You don't have to share them with any one.  They belong to you.  

Sure ... it is wrong to have sexual thoughts of your child, but you KNOW it is wrong, and you KNOW it would hurt your child both physically and mentally, so you would never act on those thoughts.

If you are having thoughts of harming your child and those thoughts are turning to a physical need to harm your child, then you should seek some help.  Please, find help outside the church, seek help through counselor, psychologist or psychiatrist.  

Answer 4

I think it would be in the child's best interest if you talked to a licensed therapist.

I am being dead serious here.

Answer 5

this seems really strange and I think YOU should talk to someone about this... counselor, pastor etc.  

Answer 6

i think we have some serious issues here, that need some counseling.  i assure you, it is wrong to have the thoughts that you speak of

Answer 7

eww that is so disgusting to even think of such a situation! If I were the husband I would demand that my wife get immediate counseling. That is sick, and if the person had those thoughts they probably need help.  

Answer 8

Corrina, you really need to seek the assistance of an educated professional. I have read and answered too many of your questions to know that your thinking is not right.

Please talk to your husband. Please seek the advice of a trained professional. These people here, including me, are not equipped to understand much less answer your questions.

Talk to your husband. Please. If you don't feel comfortable talking with your husband, please contact the pastor of your church. If you don't belong to a church, just pick a church and talk to the pastor. You need assistance, and you will not find it here.

Answer 9

Okayyy...Not many people in THIS section are going to answer with anything other than Get Help or This is Sick because this is Marriage and Divorce and so many of us DO have husbands and wives AND children.  So no, I do NOT think of my 11 year son sexually.  Ever.