This is a marriage question.Please,no rude answers.?

Question

Well the other day,my husband asked me did I still have feelings for my ex.Is this a good answer?

I don't think that I do.My mind questions me about it but my heart tells me that I don't.I don't love them.But every since I met you,I kind of forgot about them.

Then he asked me about did I marry him to make my ex jealous.Is this a good answer.

No.Because why would I had gone out with you for seven years.My mind questions me but I do love you.I didn't tell them about my marriage or keep in contact with them because I wanted them completely out of my life after I married you.I don't regret marrying you.You're the only man that I want to be with.I love you.

Are those good answers?

My mind keeps questioning about all of this but my heart tells me the truth.Is my mind just playing tricks on me?Will my husband divorce me over this?

I have had thoughts about my ex but I don't want to cheat on my husband because I love him.My heart tells me that I don't want to be with my exs.But my mind keeps questioning me.I love my husband.

Is this how you know that you don't want to be with your ex?

You love your husband.

You don't love your ex.

You don't want to cheat on your husband.

You want to be with your husband.

You don't want to hurt your husband.

You are happy with your husband.

You know that you would be unhappy with your ex boyfriend.

My friend had a dream about me and my ex boyfriend and I liked hearing it but I wouldn't dare act on it.I wouldn't cheat on my husband and I haven't.I don't intend to either.I really love my husband.But why does my mind keep questioning me?Is this just the devil coming at me?In my heart,I know that I don't want to be with my ex boyfriend.Do you think that he will divorce me or not?

My heart and mind are saying two different things but I'm trusting my heart.I'm happy with my husband so I don't think that I want my boyfriend.What I had with my exs before I met my husband are in the pat and that's where they are going to stay.I want to be with my husband for the rest of my life,not my boyfriend.That's what my heart tells me and I know that.But my mind questions me.MY exs are handsome,am I confusing think they are cute with actually wanting to be with them?Is my mind playing tricks on?

Answer 1

Not really trying to be rude, but I have read this several times in past post. Why are you so hung up on it?

I do believe this is the thrid time within a month that you have stated this. Frankly I am tired of reading it.

Answer 2

I think you have multiple personalities!!

Answer 3

We  can not  control  a  memory popping  up.   I  think if  you have  to  go into  a  long answer it  doesn't  appear  well.  You  need  honesty but  not  beg  for  mercy  statements. If  he  chooses  not  to  believe  you it  is  is  problem.   If  he  is  so  insecure in his feelings then  perhaps  it is  more  a  problem  of  his  and  not  on  you.  If  your  not  talking about, seeing, calling,  texting  your  Ex  then  he  needs  to  calm  down  and  let  you  two  have  a  chance.  Meanwhile treat  him  to  special  meal,  time  just  for  him,  go on a  date  again. And  if  continues  suggest  counseling  if  not for  both then  for  you  as  I  feel  he  is  deliberately messing  with  your head.

Answer 4

You both sound kind of young and immature. Your husband should not even be asking you these types of questions. Just strange. You response doesn't need to be that long winded as if you are tryign to convince yourself that you love your husband. Your answer should be I love you and I don't give a sh*t about my ex and never will. They are all in the past.

Your mind is racing because you let it. Focus on other things like being in the present moment instead of in the past or the future.  

Answer 5

The best policy is to be honest. When people ask me if I still love my ex than I tell the truth "yes, i still have feelings...but that was than" You need to be honest about it. You can say something a million ways and people will still misinterpret. If he ask you if you still have feelings for your ex than tell the truth. If you still do than say "yes, but look at where I am" Feelings don't go away. I don't think they ever do, and if they do than I think people have problems. People aren't robots. We're people and we feel emotions. If you still have feelings than just say it and let him know that he is the one for you not your ex.

Answer 6

I guess I am the odd one out here because the day I said "I Do" ex's and all the bullshit that went with them went out the door.

This ISN'T a marriage question. This is a childish rant about some guy you aren't even married to and quite frankly, insulting to those of us that take our marriages seriously.

Answer 7

My mind keeps questioning about all of this but my heart tells me  no, this is stupid

Answer 8

I could care less about my ex. He can kiss my *** or drop dead....whichever comes first.  

Answer 9

I think about mine sometimes. I have been married for 14 years!! I would say you're fine! Mine were all handsome and every once in a  while I play the I wonder game too..but I wouldn't change my life for anything...it's just fun to think about. Most people don't admit it, that's all.