This is an unusual question but I want peoples opinion without getting the wrong idea, my daughter is 4 years?

Question

old and mind you I stay home with my children so they are closely watched and are never in bad situations we re normally home, anyway, my daughter for sometime now has had issues with being cleaned in her private area, she has white build up that sometimes gets in their because she dosent always let me clean her as good as she should be cleaned, Ive taken her to her doctor and they suspected no foul play but indicated that she had a UTI, she complains at times of hurting down their but I m unsure of what could be going on I asked her has anyone ever touched her in a harmful manner and shes old enough to know and says no, she dosent appear to be scared of anyone or show any distance what could be going on why wont she allow me to clean her?

Answer 1

If she has a UTI then she should be on antibiotics.  Considering the "white build up" sounds more like a yeast infection to me (yes small chilrend and infants get them).  I'd take her back to the doctor and if the doctor couldn't figure it out I'd take her to another doctor, her complaining of it hurting means something is deffinately wrong and if you don't get it taken care of could wind her up in hospital.

Answer 2

Is the skin red and irritated looking?  My daughter use to have alot of irritation due to not wiping really well after urinating and I believe the moisture caused her skin to get irritated...she would cry when I wanted her to sit down in the bath water because it burned.  The white stuff could be where the toilet paper sheds...Charmin toilet paper sheds alot, that's why I don't buy it!  She may not want you to clean her because of the irritated skin.  When my daughter's skin gets that way, I will get her to take a bath and then afterward have her apply some vaseline around the outside skin where it's irritated.  I use to use diaper rash cream, that works, too.  I don't see it a problem with you helping her and showing her how to do it herself, that's what mommy's are for!!

Answer 3

She is just modest. I wouldn't suspect anything. But, you can get one of her babydolls, and illustrate the proper way to wipe... front to back. tell her to make sure she wipes inside the folds. Keep some flushable wipes in the bathroom for her too.

Answer 4

Its probably just toilet paper residue.  She should be able to clean herself with your supervision.  Maybe you are being to aggressive with your cleaning.

Answer 5

I think you are over thinking this.  She doesn't want you to clean her because it hurts when she has a UTI.  THese can happen if she is not always good about wiping.  Try those flushable wipes.  Wipe very very gently to build up her trust.  If need be you can use one of those spray bottles that they give after an episiotomy.  You wouldn't be surprised if she objected to you cleaning her nose if she got frequent nose bleeds from snot build up...

Answer 6

I think Cindy B is right on.....and the first answerer too, teach your daughter how to clean herself....

My daughter has particularly sensitive skin and is prone to rashes and itching and redness especially in her privates if we go longer than two days without bathing.  Also, some soaps are actually irritants...so call your pediatrician and find out which soap is the best for bathtime.

Don't automatically assume it's something sexual going on....

Answer 7

Has she been taking bubble baths or using scented bath products? Those can cause UTI's and yeast infections. If she is, switch to bathing with just plain water for a while and see if it improves. It probably hurts but I don't think there's anything going on besides the infection. Good luck.

Answer 8

Not sure, but she should be old enough that you can teach her how to properly clean herself.  Is she potty trained?  She may just not want you cleaning her because she is supposed to be all grown up now

Answer 9

my daughter, also 4. has been having the same problems, well, she gets sore (never an infection but she says it hurts) and I was told to have her stand up to wash her hair and body  so she isn't setting in the tub with the soap. we use dye free/fragrence free dove. then we rinse and run clean wter. then she sits in the tub of clean water with baking soda in it and plays with a few toys. no soap, no bubbles. we still use a cream on her and she never wants me to clean her, even if she isn't hurting at that time, I think she remembers the pain and is afraid it will hurt.  I would just talk to the Dr again and find out everything you can do. I wouldn't be over concerned. though.

good luck