This is kind of long and is kind of a blog but i really need help on what i decide please help?

Question

Well i am in a situation right now that isnt that mild but i am doing home school and this is my last day to get a weeks worth of work done and sisne i keep missing appointments to see my teacher i am going to be put back into public school. But the problem im having is when i was in public school i always thought of cutting myself and killing myself and i am a very lazy person who cant keep on her work so i always fail in whatever im doing. Please dont tell me to just stop being lazy cause im my case that isnt possible and i cant be convinced by those little words but i am hopeing some one out there will have some words whatever they are to keep me in home school. I have no friends in school and i am not social so i know i will be lonely, i dont get along with people even if i meet some one. So basically what i am saying is i am a bit afraid to go back cause no one likes me i never get good grades and all the teachers are a******s and give so much work no one in class can finish it!

Answer 1

My daughter was in the exact same situation as you four years ago. You do have options rather than going back to public school. You definitely need counseling for your depression. No one can do their school work when they are as  depressed as you are. Also communicate what you have said here to your teacher for home school. Don't miss your appointments even if the work isn't finished. If they feel like you are working with them they will work with you. If they have a dr's note about your depression they will give you time off as you need it .  You don't say what your age is but if you are at least 16 you can take the GED and be finished with school. You might find Jr. College  much more to your liking.  Try not to isolate yourself too much. It will make your depression worse. By the way my daughter is now in her Jr. year of college making great grades. Your life seems hard now but there is light at the end of the tunnel if you just reach out for help.

Answer 2

You can do anything in 15 minutes! Really set a timer for 15 minutes then take a 15 minute break then do it again. You will be amazed as to how fast you can work and what you can accomplish in that time frame.

Answer 3

Say (write) "I *was* a very lazy person . . . "

You may also wish to *negotiate* with your teachers.  Especially if nobody else can finish the work either, this may be a powerful bargaining chip.  

Try to learn stress management.

You may also wish to try time management on your laziness:

"I was lazy yesterday, so today I need to work".  Eventually, you may be able to get down to only *one* lazy day per week, which is Biblical, and even less than the normal two-day week-end.  

You may wish to market your laziness as ecologically sensitive (it leaves a small carbon footprint) if you are not

spending the time riding around in a jet plane or something.

Answer 4

I hear you and I would stick with the home schooling if that is all you can put up with. Believe it or not no matter what grades you are getting you have to be learning something and when it comes time for your GED test there are prep books you can buy or at the library that will help you pass your GED. If after wards you have changed and wish to proceed to college that GED and a entrance exam should be enough to see you on your way. Does this help you any?

Answer 5

You need to stop avoiding your teacher and start talking to him/her for a start; explain how you're feeling and struggling and ask them to work with you to sort things out.

But where are your parents in all this?

Are they doing everything they should to encourage and support you to get your lessons done on time and to liaise with your teacher? In my country, we have this stereo-typical approach of "benign neglect" when it comes to parents looking after their kids, I don't think your's is currently a situation where such a parental attitude would be the most helpful or positive!!

Has your mum spoken to your teacher about your missing appointments and you falling behind with your lessons?

Have your mum, your teacher and you not come up with a plan to try and help you get back on top of your lessons? Maybe the three of you should be looking to do that before simply reverting to public school.

It can be pretty common for kids our age to get depressed - it's our hormones apparently - but have you told your mum how bad you're feeling? Okay if this is just a passing phase and really just a bit of a whinge maybe you should keep it to yourself but if these depressed, unmotivated, fearful, thoughts of self-harm, socially avoidant feelings are on-going in your life then you should definitely talk to your mum and maybe then you should both go and talk to your doctor (if you haven't already done so).