This is me, and 40 is near?

Question

I've never done drugs or smoked and only drank alcohol socially. For most of my life I have had no guidance or direction, no goals. Many days & nights wasted sitting watching birds fly and fish swim. Most of my free time I just get in my car and drive, sometimes for hours, to nowhere in particular. I've never learned to cook, hate getting up for work, I have a simple wardrobe, eat whatever and whenever I like. It seems that I should be doing something other than what I do. I'm not interested in religion either.

My question is:

Why do I continue to live this way and cannot seem to correct it?

Answer 1

If you are comfortable and happy with your life like this, then there is nothing wrong with it.  Some people really hate constraints on their life or to have to plan everything out.  I call people like this 'free birds'!  However, if you feel that you are wasting your life away and if you are not happy with your life, you should meditate on what you would like to do that would bring more satisfaction and happiness to you.  If that means a new job, meeting a gf (if you are single), learning a hobby such as guitar lessons or fishing....that sort of thing, then you should pursue it.  

Answer 2

Its a routine you have fallen into.

Or maybe just the way you was brought up?

Just remember you are your own person and life isnt over yet!

Go wild, do what you want, drink alcohol until you throw up on your friends shoes!

Go to a bar and talk to random people you have never met

Buy an outfit that makes you look like a complete PRAT and wear it to work.

Just do something, anything wild!

It will make you feel alive and leave you with no regrets = ]

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Answer 3

Ask it to yourself and not us, the only thing we can suggest is to make yourself in faith and make a goal. Family is the most goal in life. Faith in God is the excellent in guidance.

Answer 4

I am 41 and feel your concerns. It is MANapause. ie a midlife thing. Take life at face value and do not forget your dreams. Life will get better. Good luck. Peace.

Answer 5

you need to make and edge do something different. When you wake up in the morning have apple juice instead of orange. Drive to work a diffrent route and listen to a different radio station. Try hosting a dinner party or just go hang out with your friends. Your in a rute and you need to do things different to get out.  

Answer 6

Well like many men out here you've never wanted to commit to anything and now your getting older with nothing to show for it..............no kids, no house, no education. Don't let that stop you, nows the time to start your life. Sign up for a couple classes, like cooking, you can only get better.