This is messing me up. How can I get my self worth back?

Question

I think I am finally ready to move on from a guy, who said we were just friends, but still gives me hope and a reason to hang on. He treats me like his girlfriend when he's with me and shows me affection (when he wants to) He contacts me when he feels like it but otherwise leaves me be. Don't get me wrong, we have a great time together, have the same interests and sense of humour, are friends, and are very attracted to each other but i'm not getting what I know I deserve---someone who spends time with me and wants to see me more than once a week, or maybe less. And also tells me how he feels.

He texts/calls but doesn't follow through with an invitation to hang out---he waits for me to ask or beats around the bush. He is so vague and wishy washy and push-pulling me. I thought i could handle going with the flow but I can't. When I'm with him, I can feel that he has feelings for me but he is not going about it in any normal way! I'm so torn.

I care about him and love his company but it's too hard. I want to disregard his text messages and "subtly" show that I am not open to these little actions. I don't owe him an explanation because he doesn't provide that for me. He just does what he wants.

This is taking a toll on my mind. How do I do this? Do I not respond to his calls/texts? Everytime I have avoided him before or told him not to contact me, he comes around. So this time, I don't want to say what i'm doing, I just want to do it. What do you think?

Answer 1

You still have your self esteem and self worth you just put it on hold so that this guy could take you for granted. If you want more out of your relationships and friendships stop settling for less because you are worth much more than he is given you credit for.

Playing his game and treating him like he treats you wont get it, drop him like a hot potato before you get burned.

Answer 2

You need to show him, (And yourself) that you don't need him if it came to it.

You don't have to just tell him to buzz off but put your mind on other things and show him and yourself that you've got more important things to worry about, be the stronger person in this situation.