This is my opinion, what is yours?

Question

I just read a question where a girl was pregnant her boyfrined told her to get an abortion b/c he would get grounded. What are people that can still get grounded doing having s*x in the first place? She also was not on birth control and let him "finish" inside her. Why aren't we teaching these kids that s*x is the cause of pregnancy! I mean do they not know that s*x gets you pregnant or do they think a stork comes? Parents, talk to your children, tell them about STD's and how you get pregnant. This girl was 15 and didnt' seem to understand that s*x caused this pregnancy. What is going on? Do they teach it in schools? They need to and parents need to take responsibility for thier children. Am I wrong here? I knew at age 15 that s*x caused pregnancy did anyone here not know?

Answer 1

Sad. It shouldn't be left to the schools. Parents need to step up to the plate and teach their children the facts of life, including why early sexual activity is risky. But since the teenage sexual drive and curiosity is what it is, I think you have to be realistic and make sure that birth control is available. Just my opinion.

Answer 2

Yes, I agree, parents have got their heads in the sand when it comes to s*x education. I myself don't have children, but I do have a niece and nephew and I am very up front with them about s*x.

I don't consider it a taboo subject. I also try not to be casual about it either. I think the biggest mistake parents make is that they are very conservative about s*x. When their children were young, they had cutesy names for sexual organs. But I never did that with my niece and nephew.

I also believe that everyone should explore their own bodies and learn what pleases them before learning to please others.

Answer 3

These kids should not be having s*x in the first place.  Problem solved.

Answer 4

agree with you and feel so badly for the babies born of these parents.  todays parents seem to believe 'the school will teach them'.  the kids learn from each other!  they know nothing so they experiment.

Answer 5

I'm totally with you on this. I've talked to my kids about s*x for I don't know HOW long. I think some parents think that if they teach their kids how to be protected it's the same as giving them permission to have s*x. I told my kids you need to wait till you're older, with someone you care about, blah blah blah....but if you think you MIGHT want to have s*x anyway, let me know and I"ll get you condoms and the pill. When my daughter turned 13 I gave her a condom, not expecting her to use it mind you, but today you just never know, right? Every year I'd get a new one, she'd fill the old one w/water and play w/it lmao (yeah, ok, I did too lol), but the point being she had one at all times.

She didn't end up having s*x till the week before her 17th b'day, which for this day and age is pretty fantastic I think! It was w/someone she cared about, AND she used the condom, and let me know so I could get her more and get her on the pill.

Ok, I'm rambling lol. But I feel strongly that you have to talk to your kids about these things, or how else will they know?

Answer 6

It's funny that you said that you knew at 15 that s*x caused pregnancy.  s*x doesn't necessarily cause pregnancy unless it's unprotected s*x.

I agree that parents are not doing their job properly when it comes to educating their sons and daughters about making responsible choices as they mature.  

The point I'm trying to make is that if parents take more of an active role in educating their children regarding s*x and its dangers and consequences at such an early age, teenage pregnancy rates can be diminished.

No situation is one-sided, and children also have a responsibility to talk to their parents, no matter how difficult it may be.  They should not be afraid to ask questions.  I think at times, children forget that parents were not born grown.  Parents went through the same things that their children face (more or less) only in a different time frame.  Children can learn from their parents mistakes, and parents should do their best to guide their children to insure that those mistakes don't happen.

Schools should also be involved in teaching about the dangers of s*x at a young age.  Society has such a relaxed approach to teenaged pregnancy now, that it almost seems a commonplace ocurrence.  That viewpoint must definitely be changed.  A 13- or 14-year old girl has no business being pregnant.  And, to be experimenting with s*x at that age seems wrong.  A body is not yet fully developed, nor are a young person's personality traits and characteristic.  Boy, talk about arrested development!

Answer 7

Some Parents were not meant to have children, and the cycle continues....