This is not easy, I have tried everything I know?

Question

my daughter has odd and adhd. she has been in the court system for the last two years and I let her live with my mom. She has been seeing a therapist for 2 years and I just started seeing one of my own. we are both on meds for adhd.

My issue is that she is like a jeck/hide.

she says she loves her family but acts like her sib and I are scumbags. Then she'll brag about us then she tells people she is not really related to us and that I adopted her (she knows that is not true) any advise?

Answer 1

She does not have ADD or ADHD, she has many deeper problems. To tell people she is adopted when it is untrue indicates much more serious inter-familial issues. The unhappiness she feels for her life is what people see as an overactive child. The mind can't concentrate when it is upset. Her problem is not just attention deficit, but what's causing the symptoms. When my father died, you could easily look at my performance and call it ADD. It was depression and personal trauma. Years before, when I had crippling eating disorders, the diagnosis could have easily been left as ADD. Again, it was more than the sum of my pain that needed examination. The symptoms only indicate that a greater problem lies beneath.

Take that perspective with you the next time you speak to your psychiatrist. Best of luck.

Answer 2

My advice is that you just be the best parent you can be and not worry about her opinion of you.  Her reactions could be a direct result of her medical issues or just the way she's working through the fact that she doesn't live with you.  Either way, there's nothing you can do except to do your best for her, be patient and loving, and make it clear that you love her regardless of what she thinks of you.

Answer 3

She might have the early stages of split personalities. It can show up at any age, but the fact that she "lives" two different lives (one life she is adopted and hate her family, the other everything is perfect) when she says things like she is adopted, ask her what her name is. This is a good indication of weather or not she is in a bad mood (very common with kids that age)

She could just be in a bad mood. When gets get upset they make stuff up and play "poor little me" when it's not true.

Answer 4

Tell her that is wrong to say things like that.