This is rude and very unneeded, correct?

Question

my sister-in-law recently insulted my mother's side of the family to my sister, brother(her husband), and I. and then her and my brother, who seem to think her family are the nicest, more gracious people ever, went on to compare her family to my mother's side of the family. though i know that my mother's side can be a bit nutty, they aren't bad people at all, and i felt a bit insulted. was this wrong of her, and out of line? or as sister-in-law, is it okay for her to discuss this with my sister and i, as well as my brother?

thanks

Answer 1

i think that is very rude if she has a problem with your family she should talk to your mother not go around badmouthing your family behind their backs

Answer 2

Well, first of all I have to say she must be a pretty bold person to begin with.  I've been married for nearly 17yrs. and while I don't agree with things my husbands family does I certainly wouldn't say it to them.  As far as I am concerned I would leave it as yes she apparently didn't learn her manners.  As for handling the situation, I would leave it as it is for now, but in the future if she starts it up again, I would assertively remind her that these are family members and while you understand that she may not appreciate them for who they are as you do, you would appreciate it if she would not voice her thoughts about them when you are around.  Then leave it at that.  No more, no less and whatever you do don't be pissy to her after that, just carry on as if nothing happened.  You will tastefully be putting her in her place and remind her she too has inequalities.  

Answer 3

It's not okay, but I think it happens in most families. I would just let it slide this time, but if she does again you might politely tell her that you aren't comfortable with  her talking poorly to you about your mother's family. You might also remind her that you and her husband were born to this family and had no choice in the matter, but she chose to marry into it. That should shut her up.

Answer 4

Yes, it's rude.

Tell that person that you're not interested in his/her opinion and to keep his/her opinions to him/her self and/or to refrain from making rude comments.

Answer 5

Maybe saying you don't like or agree with what they said and maybe tell them how you feel, they should know that it hurts to hear them talk about your family that way, it's never right to talk badly of somebody, especially your family.

Answer 6

if your brother was in on the insults something is very wrong with him. he came from your mom. is he p***y wipped?  you shouldn't have stuck around for that conversation.  If she thinks her family is so nice and gracious, she being a bad example of that. she must be adopted.

Answer 7

I have a sister-in-law just like this.  For a moment there I thought you were talking about her, haha.  Agree, rude and unneeded and most of all disrespectful.  Needless to say, my sister-in-law and I aren't exactly friends.  And I can have my opinions about her family too, only I am decent enough to keep them to myself.

Answer 8

YOUR RIGHT!!!!!!!!!!  It is very rude of her to do that!!!!!  I would not like it one bit!!

Answer 9

Well was she lying or telling the truth? Some times the truth about the way people feel , maybe insulting, but even if you know it, just tell her not to say it in front of you. despite how she feels.  

Answer 10

Psh!! I would be so freakin offended! She was totally out of line. What's her problem with your mother's family?? I'm sure there was absolutely no reason for her to be [basically] acting like her family is so much better than your mother's.  

Answer 11

It is impossible to understand exactly what happened from what you have written. But it seems like you all have difficulties communicating.