This is the begining of Ramadan n i experience this?

Question

Whats ur fave prayer when ure feeling down? What do u do to gather ur strength back?

I just broke up with my bf. Well at least he told me he needs to be alone, i asked him tho,n that was his answer.n he said thats all for now n idk if it means temporary or forever but i feel weak. I know its a sin to feel desperate,but im helpless n hopeless,trust me! What should i do? Share with me please?

Ramadan kareem.

Salaam.

Answer 1

Strength lies in reflection and obeying Allah (swt), when we do wrong it comes back to us in different ways you have to bear through it as this is what your own hands have earned. Nevertheless there is always hope, repent sincerely, purify your soul and but your trust unto Allah (swt) How can you be happy when you are disobeying Allah (swt)....?

I love this talk listen to it when you can, insignificant matters like that should not get you down.

http://uk.youtube.com/watch?v=58g-ZNWxv2...

Answer 2

I was living overseas and came home to spend Ramadan with my family and plan my wedding which was supposed to take place afrer Ramadan and the day after I arrived home my fiance tells me to forget everything and just wont speak to me, answer calls, emails, text messages or anything so I can understand a little of what you are feeling.

For me i used to listen to a song when i was younger that went like this...Oh when you feel sad and when you feel bad say La Illaha Illal Lah then you wont feel sad and you wont feel bad say La Illaha Illal Lah , only Allah, only Allah, only Allah can help you...he is near, do not fear, only Allah can help you.

And for this reason i pray La illaha illah lah alot and it gives me pace in my heart. I have accepted that Allah gives love between two people's hearts and maybe this marriage was not meant to be.....And Allah knows best!

Do not be sad...Allah will bring you happiness.  

Answer 3

You shouldn't be having a boyfriend in the first place, that's haram. Its good he broke up with you.

Get over it by reading the Quran and reading about the consequences of fornication.

I'm sorry if I sound like a Wahhabi. LOL

Answer 4

if u were a real muslim, u wouldnt be going out with boys......leave him be, focus on islam and become a better person......ask god to forgive you for doing what u did!

Answer 5

My favorite prayer is the one that comes from my heart! Just pray from your heart!

Answer 6

I will not judge you like some other people here will for having a "boyfriend". I have come to discover that different people have different definitions of what a "boyfriend" or "girlfriend" is...anyways, before reverting to Islam, I had a few "boyfriends" as in boys I would hang out with regularly, talk on the phone with often, write notes with, and kiss occasionally. After breaking up with one of them, who I really cared for, I remember feeling really aweful and down. I remember digging out all of his love notes and pictures and tearing them up, then taping them back together a few hours later while crying hysterically....yep, I've been there. I promise you one thing, YOU WILL GET OVER IT. I know that sounds impossible right now, but eventually, it WILL happen. It is a gradual thing, but someday you'll bump into him somewhere and say to yourself "wow, I havn't thought of him in years...or months..." etc. The best thing to do for now, is talk about your feelings with somebody who won't judge you, and try to focus on other things, like school, your hobbies, sports, etc. Good luck sweetie, I promise it will get better. Someday, you and your future husband will joke about your first loves together, and all this will seem like a sweet, funny, yet very distant memory.

Edit: Just to clarify, I do not encourage fornication, any physical contact that could lead to sexual feelings between a man and woman who are not married is not ok. But if you and your "boyfriend" only talk on the phone, or online, and keep a safe distance while in each others presence, I can see no harm in admitting having a crush on one another. :) Its just natural. But perhaps in the future, for the sake of avoiding sin, you should keep a safe distance from any man (or boy) who does not intend marriage.

Edit #2: If you ever need somebody to talk to, you can IM me. :) I know all that your going through,  have been there. :)