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Question

This year, I will be turning seventeen, and I just moved to a new school. I dress well, I honestly don't look too bad, and I'm pretty nice. I find it hard to make friends since everyone had already established their social circle. I was always a shy boy and whenever I try to talk and make friends, it doesn't turn out right. We are now 2 weeks into school and i want to make friends. I feel lonely, and sad, whenever we have to get into a group it is always me that is left out, I feel embarrassed to the point where I skip my classes because we have group activity. I want to introduce myself and get to know others, but obviously it is a little too late, and already people think I'm a loner. I don't act naturally around girls, and the girl that sits beside me in one of my class think I'm weird because I never talk, I don't know what to talk about or how. Whenever I talk to other guys, the act like they don't to be friends. I need help, this is affecting my academic life and I feel sad =(

Answer 1

Try and get into some school clubs or sports - youre bound to make some friends this way - and that helps break up the social circle a bit too. There are usually a ton of clubs - art, photo, environment, community service, church, math etc.

Ive felt this way when I was in High School - I got really depressed and I regret wasting time feeling that way. Just get up and put a smile on and keep going forward. You'll make it.

Answer 2

If people are going to exclude you and not take the time out to actually get to know you, then you are going to school with a bunch of retards. Academics is very important to me, and I find that my grades are WAY better when I have absolutely no friends in my classes, because I don't get distracted. I wish the best for you. Good luck, and don't skip class. Just bite the bullet and deal with those stupid people. I'm sure you have many other opportunities to make good friends. If I went to school with you, I'd be your friend! ;D

Answer 3

I totally know what you're talking about.  Unfortunatly in high school the reputation you appear to have you will generally always have.  

My suggestion would to make a large class effort to get yourself noticed.  

On your birthday (or if you're brave enough, someone elses) bring pizza for the class.  

And the secret to talking to girls and basically anyone is to ask open ended questions.  Ask about the picture the girl has on their binder.  

Ask the guys if they know of any sports you could join or something.  

Your biggest challenge has to be breaking out of your shell.  Your own shyness will inhibit you but not if you focus on overcoming it.  A sense of humor is an easy way to spark a mutual friendship.  

Common grounds help a lot too.  Ask about anything from the assignments given in class to the American Idol episode you saw last night.

Good LUCK!