This made me feel a little for the dead beat dad in Jail; what do you think?

Question

The Mrs. He was thrown in jail for simply not be able to pay his child support. He did not commit a crime. I understand about the kids trust me I see it in kids thats fathers take off but what do we do? Granted the fathers should pay but do women partially have responsiblity? After all we choose who to mate with and we have reproductive rights?

Answer 1

It is completely stupid to put a man in jail for being unable to make his support payments. We as tax payers then foot the bill for the whole fam damily. You don't even want to get me started. I have a girl friend who's husband ran off and left her with no support, she found out where he was working and living, gave DSS the address, and information - they did nothing. NOTHING!!

Putting a man in jail really helps him get a job, earn a living so he can support his kids doesn't it? It's the stupidest thing I've ever known - that and taking his drivers license.. What geniuses thought of these punishments?

Answer 2

It's a great poem. It's sad there's so many innocent victims of society's laws and false accusation "industry" out there in our jails. Even though this man is guilty, I disagree with the system, women have far more control over the children than men, resulting in an upper hand in court.

I regular give money to a charity called "the innocence project", which uses genetic testing to help release wrongly convicted prisoners from jail.

Answer 3

So is the man in jail a gangster, crook, thieve, rapist, murder, or druggie?  Or was he falsely accused?

To me the men and women in jail have no one to blame but themselves.  I don't feel sorry for them, I feel sorry for their kids.  I  have seen it first hand, it's not a pretty sight.  These kids are the one's suffering, not the parent who committed crimes.

EDIT- I agree that running off on your child is just as bad...if not worse.  But isn't it then the mother's responsibility to notify the authorities of who the father is?  Maybe she doesn't know, or doesn't want the child support bad enough.

I really have no pitty for a man who has chosen (because as you said, we are the ones with the choice....people that is) to have children with 11 different women.

Answer 4

No one should be in jail.

No one.

What century is this?

Why dont you just recommend we guillotine people's heads as a remedy, or put them in stockades in the public square so the townsfolk can throw rotted vegetables on their faces

Answer 5

Overinflated child support orders can be detrimental to a father.  I believe that Federally, a child support order can be as high as 60% net income.  It may sound like a rarity, but I have encountered cases where  fathers were required to pay as high as 55% of their net icome.  In one case in particular, child support was ordered at  $1300 a month for one child.  The man in question struggled to pay his bills, yet faithfully paid his child support until it became almost impossible.  He requested a reassessment to lower the support order and was instead awarded  a $58 increase.   Men are more likely to have higher child support orders in place against them then women, and are more likely to be jailed for not paying.  I think the law is terribly flawed.  People usually have to pay retribution for their jail stay, they can't work, have no income....they continue to fall further behind financially. At this point is is like beating a dead horse.  

It is a sad situation and should be taken seriously.

Answer 6

"Deadbeat" mums and dads? What a judgemental expression.

Answer 7

What country puts people in jail who are behind on child support ?

Answer 8

Sometimes a good man feels defeated after divorce courts and divorce.  Especially if the woman doesn't let him talk and see his kids.

Sometimes the father loses his job...gets threatened to go to jail and/or ends up in jail.  I'm talking about the dads who love their kids.  It happens.    

Nice to see a woman understand this.

Edit:  I heard of a man in jail (he was innocent) who went on a hunger strike.  Eventually they force fed him.  As for men putting up our stories here, when we do, feminists say we are "whining."

Answer 9

MANY states want to put more men and women in jail for failure to pay child support.  As a tax-payer, I resent having to pay for child support for other people when they cannot.  But, jails cost tax-payers, too.  It's not all about poverty, either.  These cases are handled individually by the thousands every day in every state and the vast majority of parents who are behind in child support who claim poverty are lying, as it turns out.  So, what are people to do?  It's the children who are suffering and growing up in cycles of poverty that breed even more problems for society.  It's like people are out of their minds in this society, they way the welfare of children and children's rights get completely ignored.

Answer 10

Well, that was a God awful piece of garbage poem with no metre that suspends gramar and inverts syntax for no reason outside of making awkward sounding rhymes...

WIth that said, There should definately be some liencey in the law for people who get sick or hurt or unemployeed and fall behind in thier child support. In a healthy relationship there is no jail time when the provider for the family looses thier job, why should there be after a divorce?