This may seem sneaky, but should I, an atheist, even consider dating a christian girl?

Question

I became atheist over the summer. I used to be a christian. Every thursday night, I go to this thing called the Baptist Student Ministry...where christians gather in this building on campus to sing worship songs and listen to the BSM director preach. Well...I still go so I can participate in the volunteer services they do (I only do the volunteer activities that don't involve me talking about jesus.).

So...I am a closet atheist, basically. I sit in the back of the room and write notes in a notebook while the BSM director preaches, so I can show my future kids how ridiculous christianty's beliefs are.

I saw two girls checking me out tonight. Both of them are cute. However...should I even bother striking up a conversation with girls at the BSM in order to date them in the future? I don't know if these girls are strong in their faith (delusion) or not....

I often make fun of christianity, and I actually have a strong hatred for christianity, because I was raised in a christian home, being taught superstition (religion) and lies for 20 years of my life by my family. I hate fundamentalist christians. ...Should I even bother trying to date a christian girl from the BSM (or any christian girl), or would I be miserable? Everyone there thinks I am still a christian....

I think I already know what I should do regarding this situation but...I'd like some outside advice. Thanks!

Answer 1

Such relationships can work, but there is of course the obvious problem of a basic incompatibility.  Before getting serious, you had best discuss what to do about any children that might result.

Answer 2

Not just with these girls but with any woman that you ever fall for remember this simple yet powerful thing:

Love should not be based on differences such as religion. When you are truly in love with someone all else should not matter.

That is what I always believe^^

You are free to your own beliefs though.

Answer 3

As an atheist, you can do whatever you want.  Who cares?  Seriously--all is fair..  I think you should get a couple of Christian girls--the more the merrier!!!

Answer 4

Hello.  Well, being a Christian myself, I believe love is love.....Meaning, love is not entirely a religion...It is just human nature...

I'm 21 years old, but I've been through some very rough times and think that no one is watching over me, but I'm still alive... So I know where you're coming from, definitely...

If you hate Christianity, I would just try to very discreetly make it known to the lady that you are an ex-christian; meaning, from a discreet conversation-- to the point of a serious and open conversation-- and hopefully she can understand your feelings.  She will most likely understand if you are a respectful and an honest man. If she does not, well, she may be missing a positive influence in her life.  Really.

I know of a few Christian couples who just dislike each other.  And sometimes, you could not even believe they are Christians.  Really.

And she may understand where you are coming from, as well.  In today's world, a nice guy is almost hard to come by, I definitely know about that.  And if it means an ex-christian, so be it.

I know of many girls who are very nice and respectful to me that are not religiously devout as many people are, but do know of Christian women and men who can be disrespectful to the point that you would not think they even have a religion to follow or even a LIFE......

Answer 5

Yes, you may be able to **** the God right out of her.

Anyway, I have always found christian girls to be looser in the proverbial sense than atheist or jewish girls - I think its cause they are raised to be *** rescepticles.  

Answer 6

If you really hate christianity, then you know that you'll never have a future with a Christian girl. Only date people that you think that you could have a future with.

Answer 7

You can date, but are you looking for a spouse or a date? If you are looking for a spouse you'll end up being miserable.

Answer 8

yes she might just sit you straight again!!!

Answer 9

Nobody who thinks can remain an atheist.

Answer 10

If you're considering a relationship with a girl, at least be honest enough with her to let her know you don't believe in the religion you pay lip service to by attending BSM services.

If she's cool with that, you have a green light from me!