This may sound like a ridiculous question but...?

Question

Do you think it is possible to almost talk yourself out of being in love with someone or is he/she just not the right person for you?

Answer 1

It's not ridiculous, but it more or less sounds like "stepping outside of one's emotions" and looking at the facts and then rationalizing based on them.

If we all did that, I'm not exactly sure that everyone would be happy or not, because people have a tendency to want what they want, whether it is good or bad for them.  

Truth is, it really is the SMART thing to do.  Look at the facts.  1+1=2.  Walks like a duck, quacks like a duck, well, you know what I mean.  More often than not, your instincts won't let you down.  Just the fact that you are asking the question is a sign that you are on the right track.  Good luck.

Answer 2

i think that its very possible

Answer 3

If you overthink a relationship with a negative attitude, of course it is possible.  Sometimes it is for the better if you really don't like the person and was pressured into the relationship to begin with.  But don't rely on it too much, you might miss the one you're supposed to be with. =]

Answer 4

you can rationalize almost anything, even love.

Sometimes you have to do the rationalizations, and sometimes it is just better to let things go with the flow.

If you are thinking so hard about not being in love with this person, you are based in reality.

Maybe you should make a pro's/con's list, and see how he fares?  If you find more pro's then you might want to stop trying so hard to not love him, if you find more cons, then it may be time to re-think the whole thing.

Answer 5

oh wow.  i am so with you.  i had a horrible marriage and now i am in  a great relationship with a wonderful man.  however  i have days when i catch myself trying to find things wrong.  but he is good to me and has done nothing to deserve my mistrust.  so i am still on my guard but giving  him a chance anyway.  how else will i know.

Answer 6

You can know that a person is not right for you .. but if you truly love someone-you can't talk the love away.

If you really don't love them - you can convince yourself that you don't love them (cause you really don't).

Answer 7

Love is not a feeling. True love is about giving of yourself. When you fall in love with another person you are really falling in love with yourself. You see the best in yourself through their eyes. If you are no longer feeling that, then you need to talk to them about needs and expectations for your relationship. Do the 2 of you have the same values?  

Answer 8

i do it when i feel down all the time when he does things that make me mad an Unappreciated and my girls tell me i could find someone that will treat me better..but hes trying ti improve...but if ur tryina do it so u could be single thats mean lol but do what ever makes u happy u only live once and ur only young once live without regrets  

Answer 9

It is possible to talk yourself into anything.

It is not healthy sometimes, and just plain manipulative other times

And in some cases it is a very good idea

Just depends on your motives

Answer 10

In my opinion, it's best to listen to your heart.  But, since your online name is funlover, you are probably more a doer than a dreamer, making it harder for you to know your true feelings and unwilling to trust them.  So, be yourself. if you can't get that little voice out of your head that tells you he is not right for you when you consider all of the objective facts and circumstances (ignoring your unsure subjective feelings), let him go. As a funlover, you'll be happier in the long run if you listen to your head.