This might be a weird question to ask?

Question

My father would like to trade my son's last name into our own last name Hymei instead of my husbands'. Since my family have all girls and no boy. For the trade, my dad promised us 1 million dollar to us if we give in my husband's last name and take my own intead my husband doesn't want to trade his son's last name, but I think we can use that money to do alot of things. Do you think it's my husband's right to pass his family name to his son, or it's not right for me to buy my son's last name?

Answer 1

That's not a weird question.  A birth mother naming her child for her father rather than the birth father happens.  However, it is weird from the child's perspective especially when he/she is old enough to understand the implications of carrying their grandfather's name rather than their father's.  It raises so many questions in the child/young adult's mind that it tends to affect the person's self-image and self-esteem.  His/her friends usually don't understand the reasoning behind the parents decision, thus the young adult is generally criticized by their contemporaries.  Your husband should not consent for any amount of money.  It's too important for your son's legacy.  If he consents, your son's middle name could be that of your father's.

Answer 2

I can understand your father's perspective.  I can also understand your husbands.  have you discussed a hyphanted last name, your husbands, then your father's?  You son will be able to chose to go by it or just your father's when he is older.  I could really use a million dollars...and would almost change my son's name for it. seriously, you should think about this, but go with your husband's name if it is going to cause a discord, money isn't everything

Answer 3

take the money!

Answer 4

Ask your dad if it would be ok if you  used his last name for the your sons middle name. I have seen this done lot while working in genealogy, that way he would have both your father last name  as-well your husbands last name.

Answer 5

take the money

Answer 6

It depends, is your husband the only son in his family? If so then you should not take the money. If he is not the only son then you both should def. consider it. The money can be a great investment for the long-term for your son (college, school, clothes, etc.) Talk to your husband with it, since afterall he is BOTH yours and his son. Do remember there many be a lot of legal factors involved as well. For example later on in life many places (banks, airports) may ask why your child's last name is different from his parents? So make sure you both solve these legal matters. Is it a possibility to have your father's last name as your son's middle name?

Answer 7

Ask what your husband thinks.  i think you should take the million.

Answer 8

i think that as old fashioned as it is passing on family name is a great deal of importance to men especially if they only have one son i understand the money aspect however because trust me i could use every bit of help i can get but, the level of extreme that is going to to get that. because ultimatley the fact is that its not an honest last name there is no truth behind it and how would you explain to youir son the reason his last name is different is because someone paid you to, as a human being they are going to read alot into that and wonder what else you would do if they offered you enough money. The final reprecussion and the potential mental detrement that may come of it are not worth it. not to mention if you take the money there may be no family to speak of because youll show your husband that his opinion isnt priceless no matter if it is his child. Weigh your coices i cant tell you what to do but i will share my opinion as a human as a mother and as a child care proffesional.

Answer 9

It is your husband's right to pass on his family's name. Your father knows this. It would be a great dishonor to your husband, so please do not continue to consider such a dishonor. Your father, by the way, is showing great disrespect for your husband and should apologize.

Answer 10

it should be your husbane's last name!

loren <33 hailey

Answer 11

I am appauled that your father would ask such a question.   I also can't believe that you are considering it.

What else has your father purchased in his life ?

Answer 12

talk to your husband. explain why you think you could use the money.

you could do alot with a million dollars!

Answer 13

Instead of selling your sons last name why not sell him your son that is what u are doing with his birth right.  I agree with your husband and if u had any sense at all u would too.

Answer 14

whatcha smokin'?

where'd you get it?

like to share?

Answer 15

Hyphenate the last name like Hymei-Chang.  Both fathers get their way and you get the money!

Answer 16

I would change my name for a million dollars.

Answer 17

Your husband should get the last choice on this.  It is his son...money isn't everything.

Answer 18

Don't take the freakin money! You need to think about your son and NOT the money! This is your family. While your making this decision, leave the money out of it. If your dad weren't giving you the money, would you switch your sons' last name?

Answer 19

My husband is willing to change our last name for the million. Please have your father respond ASAP

Answer 20

Take the MONEY!!!!

Answer 21

Yes, it is a weird question.  But then a lot of your questions have been weird.  A month ago, you asked this:

Is that evil of us?

I had a son, he's asian, statically shown that asian guys here in U.S don't have a chance of getting married. SO my sis is going to China next year to adopt a girl from an orphanage. Hoping that she will be come my daugher inlaw one day, is that awful?

You have very odd values for a mother.  Your priorities are pretty screwed up.  Children are not pawns, toys, objects, money makers, or possessions.  Nor or they responsible for carrying on our family name!  Your family has already put so much on this little boy, and he is just four!  The expectations of this little soul are tremendous, and will surely burden him and cause him pain in life.  Let him alone, and let him be only a little boy. The only "function" he is supposed to have in your family is to be loved, protected, and raised with the utmost of care.  Poor little guy.......